please help me!!!! was my sons school right????

Question

My 7 year old son is in second grade and a fellow classmate was pushing him out of line when they were lining up. My son pushed him back and the kid slap him in the back of the neck and left a hand print. The hand print was still there this morning. Although my son should have not pushed him (he can be aggressive if he needs to be) I think that it is out of line for my son to have a hand print on his neck almost 24 hours later. The school called the other childs parents and did an action plan with him. Do you think that is enough? Should I leave it alone?

Answer 1

Actually, I started reading this expecting to want to castigate the school, but I think their response was appropriate.

Answer 2

I understand where you are coming from as a mom, but at the same time they are kids and have to learn that every action has a consequence. Your son pushed him, he got slapped. The other kid slapped him and got his parents called. As for me, I am a firm believer that punishment should be done at home, so if I was you, I would punish your son for pushing in which ever way you see fit, then I would call the other child's parents yourself and explain the situation. Let them know that you have been the parent and disciplined your child and you would greatly appreciate it if they would do the same to their child for slapping your son and leaving a mark that has lasted for so long. If they will not, then there is nothing that you can do about it except know that you are being a good parent and teaching your son right from wrong.

Answer 3

Kids are going to be kids. They should both be disciplined for innapropriate behavior. Neither of them was doing what was right. Your son just happens to have the mark on him. Try thinking about the situation in reverse. If your child had slapped the other and left the hand print on him. Would you think the action plan would be a sufficient punishment for your child? If you think it is then, it's okay. If you would want the school to be harsher with your son, then it isn't. It's easy to get offended and want justice when it's our children involved, I understand I have children and can be guilty of the same thing, but I always try to analyze the situation from both sides to get a better idea of how I should react.

Answer 4

It is very hard to see your kids picked on at school and if the other child slapped hard enough to leave a hand print 24 hours later, I would talk directly to the parents and child involed to resolve it between the two families .Sometimes taking things into your hands can be what it takes to feel a peace inside you and your son.

Answer 5

I think its great that the school got involved and is going between the parents. I would leave it alone but pay pretty close attention to any future incidents. If there are any with the same child I would talkt to the school about something more then just a "corrective action plan." I truelly hope this incident will not repeat itself. Good Luck Mom!

Answer 6

As a parent, I know you will find it hard to just "leave it alone" but in this case, its the old case of "boys will be boys"...
Atleast the school contacted the other childs parents and hopefully some form of discipline will occur. But you have to leave it up to the school and not intervene yourself.
What you can do is contact the principal and do a follow up on the incident.

Good luck.

Your son and that kid are probably friends again today. Thats the nature of children. They forgive and forget quickly...

Answer 7

I don't see that there's a lot more the school can do. I mean, don't get me wrong, if it were my kid, I'd be thinking the same thing.

But if you go to them, feeling like it wasn't "enough", you must have SOME idea of what SHOULD be done. Turn it around at that point and think, would you want your seven-year-old suspended because he hit a kid once, even if he hit him hard?

They've followed the protocol set in place to be fair to both boys.

If anything, you could maybe ask that the teacher separate the two if they seem to get each other's goat on a regular basis, but I think that's about it.

Answer 8

What else do you want them to do?

They have started a course of action to deal with the abusive child....

That's strike one...if he steps out of line again, they'll likely continue with a heavier punishment...

But for now I think the school is acting diplomatically and handling it well. Better than I would have expected in fact.

I don't think there's much else that the school can do...I'd speak to your son about avoiding this particular class mate in the future to try to avoid any further conflict also.

Answer 9

Every school has their own plan for discipline. In our elementary school any hitting is considered an ABSOLUTE, meaning there is a mandatory 1 day suspension and student and parent must meet with the pricipal before the student can be readmitted. Second offense requires student and parent to meet with the district office and the 3rd offense results in suspension. Good Luck

Answer 10

Yes, I think that the schools response was appropriate...this is a 7 or 8 year old child...and I am glad to hear that apparently no action was taken against your son. I understand that your child felt that he needed to do something to protect himself, but he also needs to understand that retaliation does not always involve physical reactions. It would be nice if the other child was made to apologize, but I doubt that it going to happen....

Answer 11

As long as the school is taking action I would just monitor the situation and see what happens.
If you haven't already I would take some pics at different angles of the mark..........
but in all honesty these are kids.....and the school seems to be handling it just fine. They didn't ignore it or your son and took action based on thier guidlines.........if something else happens there will be record of this time............
I say monitor it but leave it alone.