she is in kindergarten and she cries some mornings wanting to stay at home with me. she said she doesn't like P.E. and they make her play. she is shy but she has made friends and talks about them a lot. i just don't understand why she is so upset. could something be happening in her class. she started school on the 8th of august. do u think she might just be tired. she says she cries aty school for me and the teacher told her that their was no need in crying. how can i help make her first year a good experience and calm her from crying. it bothers me and i don't know what to say. i am fixing to have a baby next tuesday, i want get to take her to school for at least 2 weeks. she is surely going to cry then. she thinks i don't love her because i make her go to school and don't care that she is crying. help me please. what do you think is the reason for all this. i don't remember crying like this. i loved school and i didn't have a friend my first year but my brother was there with me.
2007-09-12 05:01:48 · 15 answers · asked by michelecmof4 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Nope...its seperation anxiety. Why not become a room mom.
2007-09-12 05:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are about to have a new baby - I would dare say that is playing a huge role in all of this. It is very typical and normal for a child to feel anxiety when a baby is on the way, then add on the whole school thing - she has a full five year old plate.
You didn't mention talking to the teacher -- I would suggest it. Your daughter may be playing on your sympathies a little bit by saying how bad her day in school is.......the truth may be a little different. I ask my daughters every day what did you do at school and usually get a "nothing" as an answer when in reality they did something. Talk to the teacher and find out if she is truly as miserable there as she is letting on.
Talk to her about the baby and growing up -- how when she was a baby she stayed home with mommy all day, but now she is a big girl and she will have to act like it to be a good big sister. Also express that school is not a punishment or a way to get her away just because the baby is coming.
2007-09-12 05:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably separation anxiety. Our 7 year old is still making excuses and started pre-school when 3 years old. There is nothing wrong at school, he is very well liked by the teacher and kids. He makes excellent grades, and he has no other problems other than getting up and going to school. He says he has the headache, the stomach ache, he isn't feeling well, and has actually had screaming tantrums that have ended with us carrying him into school. He has also tried the laying on the couch and watching television because we did think him sick. The next time he was told if he was sick he would be in bed because that is where anyone who is sick belongs. If your little one does not adjust well to school, sorry to say, it will be a long road. He is in counseling to help him to deal with the problems he has. As much as we would like too, we cannot fix everything for our children, and they need to learn to deal with everyday situations unless they are being harmed in some way.
Kacky made an interesting point about this. She is probably fine once she gets there. Just call and ask to talk to her teacher, and you will get excellent feedback about her day from the teacher. It is just the fact of having to leave you behind in the morning.
Congratulations on the new arrival.
2007-09-12 05:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to the teacher. Something is definitely bothering your daughter. Has it occured to you that she may think you are sending her to school because of the new baby and that maybe she is worried about the new baby?
My daughter had her second child last year and as sweet and well adjusted as her first daughter is, the prospect of the new baby worried her to the point that she backslid on potty training just to get her mom's attention on her and off the upcoming baby.
Beyond that, maybe there is something at school she is either afraid of or just plain doesn't like to do. Call her teacher and ask if she's noticed anything and that will at least give you a place to start. Good luck!
2007-09-12 05:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that with a new baby on the way AND starting school at nearly the same time, she could be feeling pushed away. That's a lot of stress for a kid to handle.
Try spending some special time with just her, and reassure her how much you love her. When she comes home, tell her you're so happy to see her. Sit with her for a few minutes at bedtime to give her affection and reassure her of your presence. Tell her in advance what's going to happen when you have the baby, so she has an idea what to expect. Be sure to tell her you'll always have enough love for her too.
2007-09-12 05:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. My son started Kindergarten last year and it was awful. He cried every morning and ended up with his stomach bothering him. Many times he was so upset that he'd throw up at home...or they'd call me from school to come get him because he had gotten sick there.
Sorry to say, but nothing completely fixed the situation.
-We tried bribing, and it did help a little sometimes.
-We moved his bedtime up 1 hour and that did help. He was tired from being kept busy all day long.
-I let him sleep in an extra 15 minutes so he was more rushed in the morning and didn't have so much time to get himself all worked up. (Watching TV in the morning and just letting him play before leaving the house didn't work for us as it just drug out the "separation" thing.) He did best on 11 hours of sleep.
-We talked to the teacher to make sure everything was ok at school. He was doing fine. (He is a little shy.)
-We'd explain that he had to go to school to learn to read and write. He wants to be a "builder" and we'd explain how he wouldn't be able to build houses if he couldn't read the directions and he couldn't order "wood and equipment" if he couldn't write. Maybe you could turn that around to fit something your daughter is interested in.
In hind sight, I wish I had pulled him out of Kindergarten. He was there 8 hours a day, and most of the day was filled with "busy work". They only had 30 minutes of play time each day, and on the days they had PE, they didn't have any play time at all. How ridiculous for 5 year olds.
He would always say that they didn't do anything. All they did was color pictures, sit with their heads down and do "centers". He's so boreddddddddddd. (I'm sure they did more, but that is how my son saw school.)
He's in 1st grade now and only cried the first day. He's never been sick and hasn't said anything about not wanting to go to school. He's been in school for 3 weeks now.
Good luck to you. I just wanted to share my experience with you. I would suggest you trust your instincts. Talk to the teacher and the bus driver to make sure nothing is wrong there. Otherwise do the best you can with her. This stage will pass...
2007-09-12 23:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Joey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was in 1st grade we moved in the middle of the year and after that I never liked school. I would go to school and call my mom almost everyday wanting to come home . I guess the reason for me was that I felt out of place at school and wanted to be home . There are many different reasons so it could be hard to find out alone. I would try to take here out or be alone just the two of you and talk to her heart to heart . It is really important to fix the problem now because the habit could carry into her high school years. Try to get her interested in learning congratulations XxTakeCareGoodLuckXx
2007-09-12 05:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ginger G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have to do with school at all - maybe the thought of the new baby taking up her mommy's time is what stresses her. Reassure her that you love her talk to the teachers - at the end of the day talk about it - get her up 30 minutes earlier to read or color so she is relaxed. Be sure to include her in helping with the new baby.
2007-09-12 05:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by phantom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm...I'm not sure. there could be someone she doesn't get along with or something like that but it sounds to me like she doesn't like being away from you. Maybe you could motivate her by doing something special, just the two of you before school? or right after? or make one day a week where she gets to pick something for you to do, if she was good the entire week. Also I understand the PE thing, my niece was like that...she didn't mind the rest of it, but she's never been very athletic, just explain to her that that's only one part of her day && as long as she's trying her best she'll be just fine.
Also, maybe you could use her baby brother or sister as encouragement for her....let her help you with things and be happy about being a big sister?
well I hope this helps && that your daughter eventually enjoys school..
Blessed be to you and her!! =]
2007-09-12 05:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet if you ask the teacher, you'll learn that she really isn't crying for you during the day. This is a time of change for her, with school and a new baby coming. Just stick to the plan. She's testing to make sure you really have it under control.
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2007-09-12 05:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-26 07:41:12 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋