I met this girl and dated her for 6 weeks it was different for both of us...we where way into each other..than i wanted to have relationship with her..i told her that i was done if she couldnt commit..it was dumb but it was a mistake..i did this twice..and she got pissed and was over it..ive been chasing her for 7 weeks now...going overboard with emails and text..im embarressed i felt like a creep..i was on the edge of stocker status.i know that just pushes woman away further..i dont do that kinda thing..but all of a sudden she said she wanted to hang out and catch up..we had coffee for 20 mins sunday...and where suppossed to go to lunch today...how should i go about winning her heart back...shes dating sombody else now..but the guy has a myspapce page with 1900 friends who are all whores and hes not ganna treat her right..i just want her to be happy and i know this guys ganna end up hurting her..i know where suppossed to be together..how should i go about getting her back...
2007-09-12 04:18:37 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't need relationship advice you need some self esteem. Put this creepy hoe so far out of your life that she won't even recognize herself.
2007-09-12 04:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well, unfortunately there is nothing you can do but sit and wait in the background. She has to learn on her own. If the other guy hurts her, then she will have learned. Be supportive. Just let her know and be honest about past mistakes, apologize...let her go. If she comes back cool, if not, wasn't meant to be. Have faith that if you 2 are meant to be toghter...it will all work out in the long run. Unfortunately us independent women have to find out for ourselves. If she has a tendency- like most of us do, to go to "the bad boy" type- it usually means low self esteem, need excitement and not ready to settle down. She has a lot of work to do if this is the case. All I can suggest is - be honest. Do NOT chase or you have probablity of loss forever. Let her know you want to be her friend. It is a great friendship that many end up in a relationship, but to push is not good either. She has to be able to trust you again. Without trust, there is nothing. Do NOT point out the other guys faults-1900 whores. Just mention you came upon his my space, let her pursue from there. Depending on her astrological sign and yours will give lots of insight on who she reallly is and same with you. If you are willing to wait- patiently- when SHE is ready. Her timeline may be completely different than yours. YOu can always ask her what she is looking for, her ideal man- then become that man, stay that man, but remember- you would have to be willling to change and work hard to accomplish - be all you can be for yourself first, then God permitting, you 2 may end up together afterall. but it will take time, patience and effort on your part to be a friend first and foremost.
2007-09-12 04:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by tbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't tell her what to do. Don't tell her negative things about the other guy. Don't tell her not to see the other guy. That will just drive her away from you.
You've got her talking to you again. Don't push her. Lay off a little. Let her know you know you messed up. Let her set the pace. But don't be a wuss about it. You don't want her to see you as desperate (I know...too late but don't appear more so). When you are in a relationship, the power should be in both courts. Having you so needy puts the ball in her court which will set you up for a lot more grief later on.
Just take it slow.
And just because a guy has 1900 friends doesn't mean anything about him personally. He could just be doing it for kicks/laughs and nothing more. Myspace is not REAL LIFE. He may be totally different from what you think.
Let her get to know you again. If it was meant to be, she will come around. Good Luck!
2007-09-12 04:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by mummy heffalump 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard...that will push her away further and she will get tired of dealing with it. All you can do is just be the person you were before...as much as it may hurt you to see her dating someone else, let her, be her friend. If she wants to date you in the future then she'll know the real you. But if she doesn't you'll have to accept that and move on...It is a good sign that she's chatting with you again though.
Good Luck
2007-09-12 04:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is scare her away. Most women nowadays don't like the control freaks out there. and basically what you said to her was controlling. You made the mistake twice, that' even worse. You have to learn how to control what you say and do first before anything. Since you guys are on talking terms and eating lunch, one thing not to do is criticize this other guy, she'll figure it out. But now you have to take things slow. Be her friend. Then eventually her best friend. Then maybe one day it will go further. Give her space, don't crowd her, just let her know that your there if she needs you. It might hurt, but it'll be worth it.
2007-09-12 04:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This new guy she is dating may be totally wrong for her, but she isn't going to let you break them up. You probably already screwed up your chance with this girl when you gave her an ultimatum after 6 weeks of dating. The fact that she gave you 20 minutes was either to get you off her back (as in throwing you a bone) or she was trying to figure out if you were worth her time at all. All the stalking, calling, e-mailing, etc. only makes you look desperate and is actually going to have the opposite effect on the object of your affections. If she isn't into you, you cannot push it. You might have to realize it is time to move on.
2016-05-17 21:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by carissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off you need to take a chillaxi cab to coolsville because you are heading for stalker status again. The fact that you know how long your little ooffee date is a little off putting.
First off, find a hobby and not a stalking one. Busy yourself and try to keep your mind off of her, she will come around.
It's her decision who to date and if this guy hurts her, then well, she learned a lesson and you might start looking like a more suitable guy.
Don't rush things with her because you are going to be impatient and you'll probably end up driving her away again.
Good luck. Remember that there are more fish in the sea.
2007-09-12 04:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok number 1 whatever u do, dont chase after her.. its gonna make her feel way too specialll and shes gonna think ur obsesseddd which is always a turn off.. just play it cool...but be urself.. what did u do the first time when she fell for u? just do the samee.. im sure if she was "way into u" back then she will still have some feelings.. also, if she mentions her bf (probably to make u jealous).. dont act jealous or anything! like i said again play it cool and make her suspect that u might also be seeing someone else.. i bet it will kill her inside. ive realized that girls feel toooo special when a guy chases after them, and they pretend like they dont like the guy and that they dont care..but once the guy stops the texts and phone calls..the girl starts liking the guy. and remember, whats meant to be will happen..
2007-09-12 04:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell her that you didn't mean what you said and that you're really sorry and that all you want is her love and and that you want her back. Tell her that you love her and that you can't live without her and that you'll do anything to win her heart back and that the fool she is dating is no good. And that she could never be replaced. And maybe if getting comitted is what ended it then maybe you should get an engagement ring and ask her to marry you and that you're dying to be with her and hold her in your arms again.
2007-09-12 04:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im getting on my soapbox now but what you have done is so typical of men you guys think that you can treat us like crap and then just say sorry later and everything will be fine but heres the deal it doesnt work that way you stand to lose something you cant get back and still you take the chance personally Id be gone for good and honestly maybe this girl is just trying to be nice or stay friends but i can say you will never have with her what you had before she will always have to fear that your gonna do it again so Ill i can say is good luck and your gonna hve to work your *** off to get her attention again
2007-09-12 04:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by ... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Babe, you seem like you might be the one for her but you half to take it slow and don' rush into things. When women make yall guys wait for things like that even when they want it to it makes the relaionship and compassion so much funner and yall open up more. Aplogizes to her and tell her it want happen again. In all reality what you did made it seem like all you wanted was a piece of ***. But get to know the gurl before you try do do sexual intercourse.
2007-09-12 04:27:19 · answer #11 · answered by kimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋