My son (age 5) was invited to a b-day party this Sat. and I was wondering if it would be rude to ask the parents if my other son (age 6) could attend. All 3 of the boys attend the same day care and play together but because my 6 yr old is in 1st grade now he didn't get an invite. What do you think I should do, my oldest is hurt because he didn't get invited and like I said they are all friends.
2007-09-12 04:05:32 · 11 answers · asked by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm not sure if it's rude or not. I've accepted younger/older siblings to my daughter's birthday parties before with no problems, but someone else might, I guess.
You could ask, but if he's not welcome to come, perhaps you could plan something else with your son to do on that day... something he would enjoy and keep his mind off the party. That way, both your sons would have something exciting going on at the same time.
2007-09-12 04:12:41 · answer #1 · answered by meadowbee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have hoped that she would have invited both boys but she may not have thought about it. I always try to invite all of the age appropriate kids to my kids parties so no one feels left out. I think it would be rude to actually ask if your other son can come but maybe when you drop him off she will notice your other son there and extend an invitation to him. Go into the house when you drop him off and say to your other son "ok, lets go now - tell so and so to have a great party and goodbye" and the lady will probably tell him she would like him to stay.
Often i ask my daughters friends if its ok with them if their siblings stay cuz sometimes siblings like to be away from each other so make sure its ok with your other son first.
Good luck with that one, it’s a hard position to be in. If your son is not invited to stay then go do a special activity with him so he feels a bit better.
2007-09-12 11:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to ask, but make sure you phrase it in a way that the mother has the option to say no and not feel bad about it. Remember, she has bought a certain number of cupcakes, goodie bags, plates, etc. If the party is this weekend, she may not have time (or money) to get extra stuff for your extra kid. I am sure the lack of invite was not an oversight.
2007-09-12 11:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by suzykew70 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to ask if your 5 yr old can go to the parties the 6 yr old gets invited to as well? Now is a good time to teach him that he doesn't get to do everything his brother does and he will get to do things his brother can't! Kids have to learn to accept disappointment, now is a perfect time for him to start learning this lesson! Protecting them from everything that hurts, only hurts them in the long run!
2007-09-12 11:12:02 · answer #4 · answered by wish I were 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you are friendly enough with the mother, ask her BUT make sure you giver her an 'out' in case she is uncomfortable.
"I was wondering if Johnny could come to the party, too, but I understand if you have space limitations".
That sort of thing.
PLEASE don't just show up with both kids. I help @ my niece's b-day parties and so many parents do that and I'd really like to kick 'em because I end up running around to make sure there's enough food/party hats/plates/goodie bags/etc for the extra kid that wasn't accounted for.
2007-09-12 11:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the parents had to limit invitations due to money considerations. Better to just explain to your older child that he is a big boy now and has bigger friends to be with in the 1st grade.
2007-09-12 11:10:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps there is a reason your six year old wasn't invited. Obviously the mother knows that he exists.
Why not spend the afternoon with your six year old? A little one-on-one time is nice for a child who doesn't see much of his parents during the week.
2007-09-12 11:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be inappropriate to ask this unless your are very close friends with the other family. If you are adamantly opposed to one son going and the other staying home then you will need to politely decline the invitation and both boys will stay home.
2007-09-12 11:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by bravokardia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you pretty good friends with the parents? If you are, then go ahead and ask if it's ok. If not, leave it be. It's extremely rude to invite your other children to things when they haven't been invited already.
2007-09-12 11:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by Yogi 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are good friends with the mother, then ask! Why not? If I was the mother, I wouldn't mind a bit.
Sandy :O)
2007-09-12 11:09:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋