Ok, So theres this girl I know & told her that I like her & lately shes been emailing me, talking 2 me more often...Even if shes tired, shes still willing to talk, she'll ask me how my day is, she says she misses me from to time. Anyhow, for some reason if i compliment her in a small manner she thinks I'm lying or she thinks that shes not pretty enough. Now, lately for some reason shes been getting moody with me, pretending to hate my guts & I didn't do anything! so heres my question. Is she in denial about liking me? Whats her problem? & does it seem like she has low self esteem?
2007-09-12 04:01:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she's got issues dude! Run don't walk AWAY from this girl!!!! You sack up and tell her your interested then before you even close the deal (start dating) she gets all weird on you. Nope! Unless you enjoy drama just stay friends or just let her fall by the side of the road and keep on truckin!
2007-09-12 04:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times it is hard for girls to think that they are good enough or pretty enough, even if you think they are gorgeous. She may not know how to act towards you so she chooses to be mean which is easier than admitting that you like someone. Also she may have a few self esteem issues, let her know that you mean all the compliments that you give her. Finally, you should ask her why she acts as if she hates you or if you did something wrong. If after doing all of this, she still acts the same, than yes I think that you should move on.
2007-09-12 11:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by chyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you posted that you don't think she suffers from low self-esteem but you post indicates that she in fact does. And now since she's being mean or moody with you she's trying to disinterest you for the sake of protecting herself from you finding out what she's really like. But I've been there and I think I know what she is going through. Somewhere in her life she was told that she wasn't what "society" holds a beautiful, smart, creative, hip, or whatever by someone she either loves or places on too high a pedestal. She doesn't accept herself for who she really is yet and you and any other guy she deals with is going to get that sort of treatment until she does. No amount of telling her she's beautiful (etc) is going to help her as long as she believes a lie about herself. In fact it will only make her angrier because it will seem as if you are disagreeing with her about who she thinks she is. I would say just remain casual with her and don't try to be overly nice. Wait and give her time. I don't know when she'll begin the journey of acceptance of self but I can only tell you that if you really like this girl then you are going to be in for a long wait. It took me over 35 years to accept myself so I can not tell you how miserable and unhappy every relationship I had during that time was. I can only tell you that it takes a firm decision to raise a fist up against society and say to your self "I LOVE ME JUST THE WAY I AM." No amount of compliments can out do that.
2007-09-12 11:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by drivn2excelchery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like for some reason she does not want to get close to someone, it could be low self esteem or other problems. The real question is do you want to deal with this. Dating is a time in your life when you should be looking for those qualities that will make someone a good partner. It is ok to walk away from someone who does not have those qualities. So ask yourself, is a moody girl high on your list of potential partners?
2007-09-12 11:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was thinking low self-esteem before I even got to the end of your question.
If you want to help her, then let her know that she can't get away with loading HER issues on you.
Let her know that if she treats you with respect, such as not calling you a liar, or bringing her bad moods to you then you will be willing to be her friend.
She has already decided that she isn't worthy of your friendship & you will probably dump her sometime anyway, so she is testing you by treating you kind of crappy so that when you do dump her she can say to herself "see I was right about him too, I knew he would dump me as a friend as soon as he figured me out"
Low self esteem all of the way.
You teach people how to treat you. If you let her get away with this behaviour she will keep it up with you & every other guy she meets.
Now that you really know what she is all about, & why she's doing it, you can describe it to her personally. She may not like to hear our analysis (because people don't like to hear the truth about themselves) but if she really hears you, she may take the time to think, & figure out if her behaviour is worth changing.
2007-09-12 11:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. She is one of those people that do not know how to accept a compliment. She hasn't yet learned it is much better for all concerned to simply say Thank you.
B. She probably does like you, but may be uncomfortable when it comes to relationships.
C. Definitely sounds like esteem issues. Just remember the best looking person may not see what you see when he or she looks in the mirror.
2007-09-12 11:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I think it has to do with her self esteem. She likes you but she don"t know how to express herself. She also may think she is not good enough for you. You on the other hand need to talk more with and show her some empathy. I think for some reason she is hiding her feelings for you, You should find why.
2007-09-12 11:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does seem like she as low self esteem. if she denies every nice thing you say about her. she should just accept the compliment. i think girls need to be confident in how they look and who they are.
maybe she is just afraid to get too attached so she denies it.
or i know you will probably be disgusted but she could be pmsing if it has only been going on for like a week.
if she has been messaging you alot lately...as in like in the past few weeks...then she definately likes you.
she could be going through some problems or be afriad to get hurt. you should talk to her and if you want a relationship with her then your going to have to be straight forward with her. just come out and ask her where yall stand. i know it might be kinda hard to just come out and ask her that but if you want to know whats going on your going to have to. its better that you find out now...rather than waste more time if shes not interested anymore. if she seems like she likes you but she is afraid...you not only need to tell her...but proove to her that you wont purposely hurt her and that you really care for her and like her. SHOW her...becasue words arent enough.
i hope everything works out!
2007-09-12 11:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by blondebaby11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is hers, not yours. What is happening is she is unsure of where she stands in this relationship. Being young, feelings are her source of confusion. She is acting out of her own confusion, which is a scary place to be for her. It is not that she is denying liking you; it is more that she is isn't certain. It isn't as much of a self-esteem issue as it is a growing up issue. There is nothing that confuses humans more than human relationships.
2007-09-12 11:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by SuziChi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she does have some self-esteem issues. If you don't want to put up with it, then move on.
2007-09-12 11:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by aliengirl83 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋