I have a 12 year old daughter. When I do her laundry, I notice that her underwear is always soiled with urine. I have talked to her NUMEROUS times about keeping herself clean "down there," and making sure she knows where to wipe, but she doesn't seem to understand the concept. I don't think she understands where it comes out. (I'm not sure how this could be). She has not started puberty yet, but I am concerned about when it does happen. She does not have any mental problems. Is it normal for a kid her age to be this way? Does she just not care, or is it spite?
2007-09-12 03:59:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I have an almost 10 year old daughter and she's the SAME WAY!!! I'm not sure what the reason is but I personally think it's that they don't wipe like they should, I've caught my daughter doing it. I know it's kind of uncomfortable to actually show them how to wipe but maybe it will help her understand and maybe she sees how to do it correctly so she'll know how to do it right everytime. Hope that helps!
2007-09-12 04:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the child. I have all boys. So on the girl front I am afraid I am not alot of help. however I have was a guardian for a 17 yr old that wanted to be clean and a 17 yr old that I had to force to bath and be clean. It just depends on the child. You have to encourage her but dont be forceful. If you try being forceful then it could be an act of rebellion. She will choose when she wants to be clean. It could be that puberty will straighten out the whole issue. Has she noticed boys yet? that could be a deciding factor as well. Good luck.
2007-09-12 11:38:37 · answer #2 · answered by ldyjsmyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most 12 year olds do want to be clean. It is the point when they start secondary school (or, if you are in America, the point they turn 11) when most girls want to because more grown up. However, there are some kids who DON'T care, just basically because they don't care about boyfriends, or looking good. Sit her down and tell her it is important. While you're at it, you could give her a good ol' chat about puberty in general.
2007-09-12 14:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by DanceInTheRainn :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 11 and it is just beginning for her..before now she didn't care about showers, or clean clothes or brushed hair. All of a sudden it seemed to click a few weeks ago and now her room is spotless, she showers without being asked..daily, she washes in the shower and puts clean clothes on. I would continue to talk with her and perhaps have her begin doing her own laundry and just wait I would imagine it would happen soon..
2007-09-12 14:47:06 · answer #4 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 10, and he still doesn't care if he's dirty or not. For instance, it doesn't bother him that you can tell what he's had for lunch by the smears around his mouth. He doesn't care if his fingernails are dirty. I guess that will probably change when he starts thinking about looking good for the girls. I think it will probably be the same with your daughter. Make sure she wears clean underwear every day, and maybe she could also wear pantiliners.
2007-09-13 03:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would take her to the doctor to make sure she does not have any infections going on first. If she is ok then maybe she is just not wiping well enough. The doctor could try to explain the correct way to her for wiping.
2007-09-12 11:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by Laura J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that she dribbles,doesn't take the time to finish using the bathroom completely.I would suggest panty liners,with baking soda.this will help with any order problems and may make her more aware of what she is doing.
2007-09-15 20:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by mama_grunther 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not that she doesn't care,
it's just she doesn't realize how important it is.
i'll admit , i wanted to clean up better and stuff like that when i first started noticing guys, so at like 9 or 10 for me .
haha , it's bad to say, but it was true .
2007-09-15 14:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things; (one you don't want to hear)
Things will change when boys enter the picture ( when girls start thinking about boys)
If she is twelve-- it's time for her to learn how to do her own laundry.
2007-09-12 11:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 13 year old daughter who is in the same boat!
the only difference is that she "forgets" to wipe after #2...i am constantly telling her that she needs to make sure that she does and the importance of cleanliness...but its like it goes in one ear and out the other!
when you find your answer let me know please!
2007-09-12 11:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋