My mother was in a huge fight with my wife and I, and hung up on my wife after saying "I'm done with you guys." We didn't talk to her for a month, and she didn't show up at my son's baptism. After getting his 3-month pictures taken, I sent them to various family members, but not her. She called me yesterday asking where her pictures were and when I told her why we didn't send them, she hung up on me again. Were we in the wrong?
2007-09-12 02:35:45 · 8 answers · asked by David 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes......children are very special..especially grandchildren!
And you are denying the child a relationship with her........forgive and forget silly arguements..they only cause more pain and someday your Mom won't be here....God bless
2007-09-12 17:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by cecstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you were you see a child is a great tying bond for any family. you can apologize in many different ways but its easier with a grand baby.you have to let your mother be a part of that babies life or you'll hurt your baby and your mother .yeah i know moms can suck sometimes but its only because they can hurt you so easily.but we the former children of mother have to be the adults in the relationships.for instance my father in law and me just didn't get along but then my first son came along and know we even work on cars,sling some beer and have a great relationship.so just send her the pictures or go have new ones taken and send her a unique pose of your baby but take it don't send it threw the mail. I know it's hard but bite you tongue and bandage your wounds ,for the baby. she wont always be there then how will you explain who she was to you baby.BETTER FOR THE BABY TO KNOW HIS GRANDMA THAN TO HEAR ABOUT HER.hope i helped
2007-09-12 10:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by bear 56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of times emotions run high and families go through difficult times.
and many people don't seem to realize that calmly discussing issues is a lot easier than screaming, arguing and hanging up on each other...
i don't know if you mean you haven't talked to you wife in a long time or your mother? i'm assuming your mother??
i suppose that, next time you talk with your mother, you can ask her if she wants to come to some sort of agreement. it's ok to agree to disagree...
we have to accept others at face value, but if they are going to act out, we don't have to tolerate that behavior either.
2007-09-12 09:59:29 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mature way would be that you send her the picture only because it is not about you or the grandmother but the baby. Besides, you should respect her because she is an older woman. Tomorrow you don't want your kids to do the same to you.
2007-09-12 09:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ten42 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what happens between yourselves and your Mom, NEVER, NEVER, put your child in the middle. Do not use your child to punish the Grandma.
Whatever happened do whatever you can to make up. Life is to short and everyday between Grandparents and Grandchildren is precious.
2007-09-12 11:07:23 · answer #5 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have sought advice and is or was probably told to do that because you are being disrespectful towards her. ----aka pitting or promoting your wife's insecurities and using your child.
A mature man promotes family he doesn't make a game out of it.
2007-09-12 09:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were in your Mother's shoes, would you have appreciated a picture? Even though she "said" she was "done with you guy''s" I assume she was upset at the time and people ALWAYS are mean and angry and talk "crap" when there upset.
I would just send her one, and then see what she does.
2007-09-12 10:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were so wrong. Stop being so petty.
2007-09-12 09:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋