Would you quit smoking if you could?

Question

Hello!
A family member has been smoking for at least the last ten years. I am really worried about him and would like him to quit smoking, although I know that is up to the person doing it, I just do not want to see anything happen to him.

Anyway, I know he is addicted, I have never smoked so I do not know anything about how addicting cigarettes can be, but would like to find a way to get him to quit. He is very stubborn and gets mad when people talk to him about it so I am in a rock and a hard place. What would you do?

Also, would you quit smoking if you could?
Are you a smoker or a non smoker?

Answer 1

I just quit smoking a few days ago. I have tried to quit several times in my life and failed. Even after watching my mother die from smoking earlier this year I still couldn't quit. Believe me your loved one knows very well how harmful it is. We hear the warnings, we see the statistics, and we even feel the reprocusions. There is nothing you can do but gently encourage. Trying to force him to quit will never work. In fact the more I was pushed the more I resisted. When people finally left me alone I put them down on my own. You really have to understand in your own mind that he is his own person and has a right to make his own choices about his body as long as he is considered sane. Even if it is harmful. He knows the affects, but it is his choice and I know it hurts to watch him smoke himself into an early grave, but you just have to let him because that is his right to choose to do so.

Everyone who smokes would quit "if they could" we know its bad. Some just really enjoy it and are addicted so they cant quit. Some are just so addicted they cant quit. It takes a lot more then just want and determination to quit. It is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. It has never been cause I didn't care, or didnt want to, it really is the hardest hardest hardest thing ever. It is very addictive, even more so then any drug out there in my opinion. Let your loved one know how much you love him, but don't push to much you will only make it worse.

Answer 2

Former smoker. Quit 4yrs ago. Cold turkey. Said when I finish my last pack from the cartoon that will be the last one ever. Haven't had once since. I smoked for almost 20yrs. It was hard the first few weeks. Went through a lot of straws and toothpicks. I still chew a lot of tooth picks but it sure is a lot safer then cigarettes. Just encourage him to stop with the positive benefits and show him how much money he can save. Good luck.

Answer 3

I am an ex-smoker. I can tell you that it is the hardest addiction there is to beat. I tried and failed many times, but the new drug Chantix has really been a huge help, it has enabled me now to be off of cigarettes for six months. My doctor recommends using Chantix for a full year to make sure I am done forever with cigarettes and then we will taper me off the Chantix.
But you can't make someone else quit....they have to want to, and they have to do it on their own. You can worry about them all you want, but the choice is theirs to make, not yours.
When someone is ready to quit, they will find the resources they need to enable them to quit. But until and unless they want to actually quit, there is not a thing you can do, and if you try, you will alienate them and make them more stubborn about continuing to smoke. So, leave your rock and hard place, you put yourself there. If you must do something, get a brochure or something about quitting, there are some nice ones available online about Chantix and leave them where your family member is likely to find them. Aside from that, leave it alone. The choice is not yours.

Answer 4

quit smoking

Answer 5

I smoked for many years and when I quit smoking I needed people's support, as it isn't easy. I am now a non-smoker and proud of myself for doing my body a favour.

Tell you family member that you love him dearly and you wish he would quit. Tell him that you will be ther for him during the whole process.

Also, don't use nicorette....use regular gum and he will still be getting caffiene from nicorette.

Answer 6

i am a smoker, 10 cigarettes a day-more if i go out..and eventhough i hate the fact that i smoke..i keep doing it. it's hard sweetie, and if he doesn't want to quit,there's nthg u can do..

Answer 7

m a nonsmoker.....you r nice to take care bout your family member but alas you cant do anything but you can do onething....there is something like spray in the market specially for nonsmokers if you spray it in your mouth ...it gives the feel that smoking do..so may it helps you.....

Answer 8

yeah im a total pothead and would luv to quit but its sooooo hard. i currently have picked next week to quit....

Answer 9

i'll quit when i get good and ready to