In the office I work in they usually do baby showers for any employee that is expecting. Now their is an employee that is getting married and the boss does not want to plan a bridal shower because they usually don't celebrate marriage. Most employees are upset over this claiming that marriage is as equally important as the birth of a child.
2007-09-12 02:01:50 · 20 answers · asked by Jewel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
They are both important, life changing events and should be celebrated. If they don't want to have a wedding shower, they can at least take the bride to be out for a nice lunch and have some cake in the office.
2007-09-12 02:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, as far as an office party goes, your boss has to draw the line somewhere or the whole budget will be spent before you know it!
besides that, normally a baby affects the working life of a person a lot more than marriage does, and a baby shower is a nice way for the co-workers and boss to show support of the fact that their coworker is about to be very grumpy and tired for a few months. all that really changes at work when you get married is some time off for the wedding/honeymoon and that you'll mention it.
so, really, in the workplace a baby has more effect than a marriage.
2007-09-12 09:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Erica S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are both equally important. True that there is something extremely special when I child is born, but the same is true when someone is getting married. This person has CHOSEN to be with one person for a lifetime - if more people had faith in marriages working out, maybe they would & there'd be less divorces. If the bossman says no to a bridal shower - do one at lunch time or right after work. My husband's work threw us one in a conference room right after 5 - it was very nice to know that his co-workers were happy for us.
2007-09-12 11:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cheezie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage does not even come close in importance to the birth of a child. I can have three million weddings if I want, to the same man or different ones. But you never experience two births the same. Each child is unique and beautiful and magnificent and the feeling when you hold them for the first time is better than any drug can induce. Childbirth is definitely more important.
But I do think that your boss should allow you to celebrate all life altering experiences. Since she/he wont though why not just plan something outside of work, maybe right at quitting time?
2007-09-12 09:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing more important than the birth of a child after a couple is married!
Usually, offices have a 'policy' - whether formal or informal - of what to celebrate, amounts set for gifts, etc.
Maybe the employees could just get together and you could help plan the shower informally for the coworker getting married.
2007-09-12 09:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they are equally important ask any married person with kids and they will say the two most important days are the wedding and the birth, maybe 2nd and 3rd weddings shouldn't be celebrated with a shower but a first time wedding I would think should deserve a shower. If your boss won't throw one then you should just plan one at your house and invite your coworkers.
2007-09-12 09:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married was great but having any of my 3 babies was 100 times greater than getting married. Your boss should still let them have a bridal shower it is still a vary important part of life that should be celebrated.
2007-09-12 09:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a walk to the hangman's noose for some. The birth of a child is a precious thing and will cost tons of money, so therefore, the birth of a child is far more important than a dig your own grave marriage, (for some). Making the baby shower way more important. To save tons of money and shopping time for the new mom and dad, giving them more time with the new toy.
2007-09-12 09:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually baby showers are given by colleagues in a job however Bridal showers are not. Not sure the reason, but the same is true for many people's workplaces.
2007-09-12 10:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by pestross 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both events are huge milestones in anyone's life. I just got married this spring and I know that I will treasure that day for the rest of my life. A child does mean long-term added expense. Instead of planning a shower, just ask some of your co-workers if they would be willing to bring in a gift. Quitely give them to the bride or groom to be.
2007-09-12 09:56:45 · answer #10 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋