(cont.) she stay away from him...what gives? does this happen to all christian girls? my friend is like sick of christianity cos of such incident...how to advise my friend?
2007-09-12 00:47:29 · 22 answers · asked by DunHurtMePlez 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
my friend thought that he could show that he was committed to the girl cos he thought that her religion was important to her and she was like asking for him to be committed to like join her...but she was like staying away from him since then...now my friend was like kind of sick of this religion thing and he has given up a lot of things for this girl...he was kind of lost...
2007-09-12 01:18:28 · update #1
Your friend misread the girl's invitation to join her Christian organization. The invitation was to meet Jesus, not to have a romantic relationship with the girl.
Any romantic interest the girl may have had in your friend, if any, would quickly have dissipated when she recognized that his interest in Christianity was strictly an interest in her.
Don't get me wrong: A Christian organization is the best place on earth to meet girls (and a bar is probably among the worst places). But Christian girls are looking for Christian boys. They are interested in a relationship that could turn into a Christian marriage, founded on complete openness, limitless love, and unsullied sexual fidelity. They would be foolish to get involved with anyone who doesn't belong to God.
Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all the other things--including a romantic relationship with a Christian girl--will be added to it.
Cheers,
Bruce
2007-09-19 14:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said it sounds like he was trying to use Christianity to get to the girl. She probably saw right through that, and that is why she is staying away. She seems to have Jesus first in her life, if he does not then he needs to rethink his stand. I mean if he joined for her that has no depth of commitment to Jesus, and so that would seem that he is fake. I am sorry but thats how it sounds. If his commitment to Jesus is strong he would never give up on Jesus over a girl. He did not count the costs before saying I will follow Jesus. Now that things are not going his way he want to turn back. It does not sound to me like your friend was ever a committed Christian.
2007-09-19 17:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by cowboy_christian_fellowship 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greetings, the purpose of "joining church" is not to please anyone or to impress someone. You do that in a social setting. The Church is the Body of Christ, not a social hall or club. The Church is for worship not courtship.
The fact that there are attractive men, women, boys and girls in church settings is because the Church is unlike anything created upon this earth it imbodies all that is pure and lovely, and that is why we are drawn to {Her} and invite those we care about to fellowship (join in) our enjoyment.
If your friend thought so much about the young lady to respect her interest and visit her house of worship if he was sincere and accepted Christ.... Oh yes I failed to mention that you really can not "join" the Church you must be BORN into the Church of God. and if the young lady saw your friend was sincerely interested and concerned about being in fellowship with "her" church, then perhaps she (with the blessing of God) might pay a little more attention to "your friend". Well at least that is the formula, or recipe for "church meetings".
2007-09-19 20:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by reverend_logan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for one thing, he shouldnt have joined a church without feeling like it...it is a thing of belief, which is ur personal choice, u dont do that just to please someone. he should have thought twice before doing this...first consiederthe teachings, the ideas, the way of life, the people, not just after a recomandation of someone.... he asked him to join, maybe because this was her job, to 'scout' new followers. most probably she wasnt even interested in him as a person if he's staying a way from him...and NO, not all christian girls are like that...and surely if ur friend is 'sick' of christianity, then he shouldnt have done this in the first place... advise him to turn abck to his old beliefs and be more careful next time
2007-09-12 00:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Grey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if he joined the church just to be with a girl, that might be the wrong reason. Second, she may have thought the he was only joining to get closer to her. What should have happened is that she should have explained her reasons for her asking him to join her church and he should have stated his expectations regarding her. A little clarification between the two would have made this a much easier situation. Church is not a dating site.
2007-09-19 13:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dozer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bringing a girl to church for her to have a relationship with Jesus Christ, is one thing, and the right thing..... but bringing a girl to church to have a relationship with her is another, and the wrong motivation. Your friend is sick of the Church because he is not there for the right reasons, but maybe the girl.... IS. It is possible that the girl knows this, and is waiting for he too to enjoy the church for the right reasons, before anything else could ever develop.
Of course, it is possible that will not happen either, however, the man's heart must be set right in the church 1st and foremost....
2007-09-12 00:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by sassinya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doing the right thing for the wrong reason...he should attend a church not for a girl, but for himself, to know and worship God.
Not all Christian churches are the same. And, he also cannot determine what God is like, about, or has said by a mere incident like this.
I would encourage him, and you, to really dig into Christianity. Find out what it really is about. Don't just swallow down whole and believe whatever you are told, but do original research for yourselves. This by reading the Bible, to see if what you do hear is provable from the Bible.
2007-09-12 01:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the day of judgment God is not going to be asking people how well professing Christians did in representing Jesus here on earth during their lives. He is going to want to know what each individual did in regards to accepting the payment that Jesus made for them when He laid his life down on the cross to atone for the sins of all who would by faith accept his sacrifice.
Your friend should be going to church to learn about Jesus and God's plan and purpose for his life. If he happens to meet a Christian woman there and they get married that's just the icing on the cake. If he is going to church just to try and get in the favor of a girl then he needs to let go of that motive and think about his eternal destiny rather than what benefit he might accrue in the short term.
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2007-09-12 00:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by Martin S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Need more details as to their realtionship to fully answer
on the other hand one, should "join church" not as the result of a social invitation but rather because they wish to follow the dictates and text of that religions's belief
it's not like accepting a invitation for tea and crumpets
http://www.sgi.org/media/sgi-dvd.html
2007-09-12 00:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by creole lady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To join the church for the church, not girl. Join the cooking class for girls, not cooking loll
2007-09-12 00:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by 24 years o natural Philosophier 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋