What should a mother do when she is indirectly forced to leave the house by the daughter-in-law through her henpecked husband (Mother's Son). The house was bought by the father and was transferred in the son's name out of pure love to son.
2007-09-12 00:32:40 · 15 answers · asked by Olvin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just wondering why people are comparing a henpecked husband into you doing something wrong. Those are two completely different issues, but it is always the easy way out to blame the mother-in-law.
We don't know the circumstances of why you are living there, you might have an agreement that we don't know about. I agree, if possible, it would be best for you to not live with them. I can see all the thumbs down coming from the "do no wrong daughter-in-laws" already.
2007-09-12 04:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I wonder if he's henpecked by his wife or has finally "had it" with your behavior because of your obvious negativity toward the woman he loves. Why did your husband not leave the house to YOU? I presume you have another place to live, or your son probably would have worked out some other arrangements to try for harmony in the household.
2007-09-12 00:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she needs to live there, then she needs to apologize to the daughter in law for whatever she did to royally piss her off.
Otherwise she needs to find her own home. A gift does not come with obligations unless you set them when the gift was given. You were once a young married woman, would you have wanted to live with your mother in law? If your son is able to be "henpecked" as you put it, that's your fault for raising a man with no self esteem and no will. Considering your situation, I think the evidence speaks for itself.
Get on with your own life, be a grown up.
2007-09-12 01:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well if the house was given to the son, the mother should move in order to avoid conflict.
2007-09-12 00:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything. Yeah, the woman is at fault, but also the man for allowing her to treat him AND you like that. My sister in law is the same way...used to get mad at her and think terrible things about her until I stopped to realize that he was allowing her to be like that. It's a two way street. All you can really do is calmly and rationally express your feelings to your son, and give specific examples as supportive evidence. And don't bring up the house. You gave that to him out of love, not expecting anything in return. Yes I completely agree with your stance on it, but it would probably just cause feelings of resentment in him.
2007-09-12 00:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, that's a really difficult one.I'm assumeing that the father has passed? And was this the family home where you and your husband lived and raised your children together?
2007-09-13 07:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did something you shouldn't have. It doesn't matter if he is "Hen-Pecked". You need to stop bleming her. YOUR SON is the one who put you out. I'd ask myself why HE did that. What was happening PRIOR to this move? You can't have 2 female Heads of the House.
BTW, the easiest way to get on your DIL's (and son's, too) bad side is to interfere with the raising of their children. You don't want to get too involoved or try to tell them what to do.
2007-09-12 01:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you didn't want your son to have the house ..then you shouldn't have given it to him...you gave it to him with no strings attached..
decide which you love the most and want to have a relationship with.....the house or the son.............pure love means accepting a daughter-in-law as part of the family because your son loves her...and you should too.
he is not hen-pecked ...just in love with the woman he married............God bless
2007-09-12 01:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by cecstar 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know a similar case, the poor mother was powerless. The cowardly son could do the right thing.
2007-09-12 00:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How much do you need to feed an adult corgi in one whole day?
2017-03-23 18:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋