the problem is that even though we won't have our first child until 9 weeks from now, I feel like I rarely get to see him and it is hard to find time together. the weekends are rushed right now with nursery preparations and family events. and now we're having a baby. i want to scream.
2007-09-11 19:42:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Obviously, in the beginning you'll be busy with the new baby, but if you can start now, plan a date night once in a while, even if it's going to fast food and eating a burger, just the two of you. I'm sure family will be happy to babysit when the baby is born and you can get away for an hour or two. Also, when the baby is asleep and you both have a day/night off together, order take-out, unless you like to cook, and have a candlelit dinner at home. Babies sleep a lot and are pretty easy to take out the first few months, too. We used to take our daughter to restaurants when we knew she would be asleep and we could enjoy our meal. You'll make it work.
2007-09-11 19:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the exact same thing going on. My chidrens father works at night and I go to school during the day and we both work weekends. I decided to go back to college so I can have a good job. But We have a 3 yr old a 2 yr old a 1 month old. And honestly its very difficult to spend time together. Sometimes it seems impossible. It will all eventually slow down with the family events and nursery preparations. But if you feel like you all aint spending enough time to gether then tell him you want to go somewhere for dinner and a movie the night you two are off and spend time together before the baby comes. I see my childrens father every night when we go to bed but yet I still seem to miss him. But you def want to talk to him about it because you want to make him aware of how your feeling so that way you guys can make some kind of time for each other.
2007-09-12 03:11:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jesmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath.... relax.... relax more.... feel it... exhale. ok I'm in a similar situation where my wife works during the day and I work at night. It's hard to make time for each other, but you will learn to sieze those small windows of opportunity. Our girl is 8 months now and we're really happy about the situation, because we both have an incredible bond with her. It's definately going to be a challenging road ahead. When it gets tough for me I think to myself "everybody sense the begining of time had been raised somehow, we'll get through it one way or another"
2007-09-12 02:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Scott S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i work days and my husband works nights (9pm-5 am).
i'm due on Sunday, and when I go back to work, i'm adjusting my schedule so we can all have atleast ONE day off a week together. it will make all of the difference.
i know how you feel. i feel like we will be "clocking in/out" all week... when i get home, i'll clock in, and he'll clock out and go to work.... then when he comes home in the morning, i'll clock out and go to work.... bleh
on the bright side, i dont have to worry about someone i dont know watching my new baby and working just to pay the childcare service. that's the silliest thing to do, in my opinion. we don't make alot of money (about $40,000 together), and i'd hate to give all of the money i earn in a week for someone to watch my child all week!
2007-09-12 08:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋