How do you remain a leader without being pushy or dictative?

Question

I am pretty authorative ...I know I am. I have even noticed it. I can also be a little dictative. I am a leader, always have been. I am on a new job that I have been with for a couple of months. The job is actually a new company that needs some leadership..however, my boss seems figity around me sometimes or uptight almost like he feels uncomfortable around me and not at ease. I bring my ideas to him across the table and he goes along almost every time. I feel that I may be coming across as demanding or dictative like Im over him ...how do I act like a lady and remain an employee rather than being overbearing and pushy?

Answer 1

If you think your ideas are really usable and you thought of the pros and cons but still very strong with it there's nothing wrong with being an authoritative. However you should present to your boss or anyone involved both the positive and negative, the advantages and disadvantages so they can have options. You know someone has to think and someone has to approve and disapprove. It could be healthier if you can do brainstorming sessions, hear each others voices. I knew it because like you I am a leader, but before I present my ideas I have facts, data's, and options to support it.

Answer 2

I am working in a place where a colleague has more or less elected herself to be leader, and is telling others what to do, and confusing everyone because she is giving us information that is conflict with our real manager.

Maybe the company needs leadership, but leadership is not telling people what to do.

Leaders set by example. Alexander the Great lead the calvary charge and was always the first over the wall in an attack (once he was stuck on a wall of a fort by himself while his soldiers struggled to get ladders up to join him).
To be a leader, do what you think should be done. Then others may follow you.

Leaders help others. Telling others what to do will only make them tell you to go stuff yourself. Rather a leader will be their to help. Support other people's ideas, rather than push your own. Tell the boss about the good things other staff are doing.

Leaders and managers make the mistake of thinking they should decide. Rather it is organisations that decide. No modern company works by individual decision making, rather it is collective (sometimes in committes, sometimes through a chain of decisions and recommendations). Give your manager proposals and ideas from which he can choose. Give him information, for example, Our sales in district X are low, here are suggestions (include the suggestions from other people).

In the end, don't be pushy and authoratarian. I think the worse the problem becomes, the less control you feel that you have, the more extreme your behaviour will become.

Remember the boss wants to believe that he is in charge. If you solve problems for your manager, then they will resent it. I have been employed on occasion to solve problems greated by my manager. Once I solve them I simply demonstrate that I am smarter than my manager and they get upset. If I don't understand or fail they are happy because they think they are smarter than me.

Rather than give solutions to your manager's problems, go to him with problems. Get him to solve your problems.

I worked with a guy who could convince other people his ideas were really their own, making them want to do it. I wouldn't be that extreme, but you should try and obtain as much input and ideas from your boss as possible (and then you can present your ideas as having come from him).

Answer 3

I think you should just loosen up and learn to listen to other more and their opinions/perspectives on everything. One important thing to remember is you are a leader of a TEAM. A leader is a part of a team. And there is definitely no "I" in team. Try to work more WITH others and associate more with them rather than pursuing a dictative attitude. Consider their feelings as well.

Answer 4

A real simple way to not seem "bossy" or authoritative is to -not- distance yourself from your associates. You may be in charge, but you're still part of the team; in short, don't be condescending. Instead of saying "I think you're wrong", ask a lot of questions. Try to see where they are coming from, and certainly never say "you", always use we. You're a team, right? Sounds simple, and it is. It's also incredibly effective. As soon as one can drop their "I always have to prove I'm better" which often turns into some form of intentional, or even unintentional, co-worker bashing. Just watch your step, and you'll do fine!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

It may be your choice of word. Try to use words which does not have commanding tone.
You can also ask for opinions even if you wants to go ahead with your plan so that you know what are the concerns other may have and how it impact them if they are invloved.
Try to understand why others are feeling uncomfortable by putting yourself in their shoes. If you know what is their discomfort, find suitable ways to diffuse those feelings.

Answer 7

Why don't you put forward your suggestion and explain why you think it is a good one, and then ask him for his opinion? Say something like, "You don't really seem too convinced, what would your suggestion be?". That way he doesn't feel that he has to go along with you, and it leaves the topic up for discussion.

Answer 8

pay attention....... !!! Thats it, i might desire to supply you extra profound suggestion than that, yet listening is the final gadget everyone could have whilst it is composed of triumphing human beings over. somebody is, by capacity of nature, a self in contact being. enable them to cater to that want and something you're saying or do will doubtless cater to that it with none attempt on your area.

Answer 9

by giving attention to everybody's view will gain better leadership

Answer 10

treat people the same way you expect to be treated.