trying to talk to a really shy girl...but she is unresponsive.?

Question

I know that she finds me attractive. She is phillipino, and another woman I work with who is phillipino has told me about her and I told the lady that the girl is cute. She is so shy and doesnt speak to anyone. I have tried to innitiate conversation, but she just wants to read her book in the break room. WHen I told the lady, that the girl was cute, later that day she gave me eye contact twice. The next day I tried talking to her but she was only interested in her book. I even tried asking her questions about herself and she just gave me a yes or no answer. How do you get a shy girl to open up? I know that she finds me attractive bc I have seen her looking at me in the corner of my eye a few times, but she wont look at me if I am looking into her eyes. What can I do to get her to open up?

Answer 1

When trying to engage her in conversation, and she answers with a yes/no, probe a little to get more response from her. Don't let her get away with just a yes/no answer; keep prodding, gently. If she is interested, she'll eventually catch on, and carry her part of the conversation. That's just good manners. She may have been scolded as a child; told that "children are to be seen and not heard," and the habit became entrenched. Too bad if you're prone to shyness anyway. Once she starts feeling comfortable around you, and you keep on patiently urging her to open up, she'll begin to talk more freely. But she probably will always be rather quiet and keep to herself; it would not be wise to call her attention to that fact.

Answer 2

HELLO KATHY if you think this guy is worth your time; then don't give up on him. in fact he may not really be shy, he may have a hard time talking with girls! he may have said something stupid in the past to a girl and maybe hes afraid to make that mistake again. maybe he sees that most guys will say whatever it takes to get with a girl, including lying and he doesn't want to reduce himself to that. he may be unsure how to say what he wants. you may have to be the aggressor to get this relationship rolling. try to find an interest of his that he likes to talk about, something he doesn't have think about the words coming out of his mouth to help put him at ease. let him talk about himself and try to find things in his words that you can relate to and chime in with some positive reinforcement. try to keep the conversation lite and positive. when he feels comfortable just walking up and talking to you without feeling that hes under pressure to say the right thing then maybe the conversations wont die-out so often. you say your not that close, but if there wasn't an interest then i don't think you would have posted the question. in some relationships the female has to be the forward person that makes the majority of the moves in the beginning; balance will come later if it last. this doesn't make you pushy or him week, its just if someone doesn't make the move it will never happen. not knowing either of you this is the best i can do! i wish you the best of luck. GRANDDADDYBEAR :-)

Answer 3

This is easy, try to find somthing that she likes. Once she is into the subject matter that you brought up, she will so talk to you...Everyone have their favorite topic when it comes to starting a conversation, so figure that out, she will talk a lot. But if nothing works, then maybe she just want you to leave her alone.

Answer 4

if she do not want to talk to u, there is nothing u can do. but u can try smile at her and exchange greeting first.. till she is more familiar with u then u make a further move. Have some patient..

Answer 5

ask about the book, its worth a shot, yeah don't push too much though.

Answer 6

dont push her...keep being polite...speak softly around her...maybe email her...and if she doesnt come around, she may not be interested

Answer 7

awwwwwwwwwwwww...

MAYBE SHE IS STILL NOT COMFORTABLE TALKING WITH YOU

TRY MAKING FRIENDS WITH HER SO YOU COULD BE CLOSE TO HER.

Answer 8

maybe she's a nerd...