Pagans only please....?

Question

How do you gentle a harsh spirit in yourself?

13 going on 14....I am wiccan hon and forging a path with a Harsh spirit that I must learn to deal with.... Oh to be young again and see the world from only my perspective.......Sigh.....

Answer 1

a bath or tears calms a child (and me) I also like to scream and yell at an egg and give it all my neggies and then throw it as far or as hard as possible and release the yuckies. Peace sister friend

Answer 2

I'm actually an Atheist, but I have some experience in Pagan ways. I take bits and peices from all religions, I just don't buy the supernatural explanations for why some of it works.

That said, a "harsh spirit" would be what I would just call an internal mental conflict. Doesn't matter what we call it or think it is though. Go out into some peacful woods, or the most natural place you can find. Just sit and relax, feel the wonder of nature. Don't really do anything or think anything, just be a part of the woods. If you feel like you need to do some type of ritual, do it, but be sure to just do nothing for a while afterwards.

It works. If you want to think it is a good spirit in the woods cleansing you, that's okay. I think of it as letting my mind relax and have time to heal. We may both be wrong, but that's okay as long as it works.

Answer 3

I recognize the wind that is blowing all around me and how I am unable to stop the whirlwind that is nipping at me for attention. When I feel a harsh spirit, it is generally bc I am mad at someone. So, when that happens and I am angry or feeling "harsh" I try to take myself out of the situation I am in at that moment. I take a walk and have a good talk with myself, and if it is anger I am feeling, I try to( emphasis on "try") see the situation from the other person's point of view, and try to see my part in making the situation bad. It is difficult because when I feel wronged, all I want to do is stew in how pissed off I am and work myself up into a righteous indignation of rage.

Seeing my part in it allows me to calm down, get off my high horse, no matter how much I like it up there, and to clean up my side of the street, take responsibility for what I did, and to be able to try to see if I can't forgive the other person. That can be very hard to do. It helps me to remember some of the really rotten things I myself have done, to forgive someone who has wronged me.

Finally, as a pagan, I reconnect to the Earth, and that always makes me feel better, whether the source of my harsh spirit is anger or something else. I go to a lake that is very close to my house, walk the dog there , and we walk around the lake, looking for signs in nature, which always seem to come from that lake. Sometimes it is a feather from one of the lake's birds, or an unusual colored stone, or the glint of sunlight on the water... something that tells me what I need to know at that moment.

It is always there if I look for it.

I don't know if anger is the source of your harsh spirit. Is it something else? Whatever it is, may you find your peace and calm the spirit that troubles you.

Soothing blessings and ((((hugs))))
Lady Morgana )0(

Answer 4

For short term calming down, breathing exercises really help (rhythmic breathing). Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. You will find the instructions about rhythmic breathing on the internet.

For long term change of personality, you need to work on yourself a lot. Meditation helps, thinking about it, stopping yourself every time you're about to do something harsh and consciously say: no, i won't do it that way. It's a long and tedious process, but persist!
Good luck!

Answer 5

It's a constant battle. At least it is for me.

Sometimes I double up on gratitude, or forgiveness affirmations, which is my most positive method.

From there it ranges to just indulging it, which doesn't do much good, to doing some fairly reckless and innovative craft work, which sometimes offers a relief as a distraction and often leaves me with a growth experience to be grateful for. [But those 'experiments' have been among the most beneficial to me in terms of learning un-named methods of energy manipulation].

Good luck finding what works best for you.

Answer 6

I identify my problem areas and work to involve more of the opposite in my life to bring myself more into balance. I also look for healthy channels for that harshness. For example, I have a fiery temper. I try and focus that temper into issues that matter so that it can be productive. I also work to bring more temperance into my life, focusing on earth for grounding and sometimes water for greater empathy and understanding of others, since I often don't realize how my temper hurts people.

Answer 7

When I feel out of balance I burn sage to cleanse me of negative thoughts and then burn cedar and sweet grass (which promotes blessings and positive thoughts). I'll listen to a nice, relaxing CD (Tibetan Singing Bowls is one of my favorites). I do something fun and creative (l enjoy making things out of leather, feathers and beads).

About ten years ago I was going through a particular difficult time. Nothing seemed to help, so I got in my car and drove 180 miles to one of my favorite waterfalls! The water level was low enough so I was able to wade in and let the water literally fall over me. . . that was particularly cleansing and healing.

You have to be gentle with yourself. Keep to your own counsel. Bright blessings of light to you.

Answer 8

I am uncertain what you mean by "a harsh spirit." That must be a christian thing. I will tell you this, however: anger must be tempered by patience, fear by understanding, justice by mercy. These are the teachings of Our-Way.

Answer 9

I have found that lots and lots of counseling works. Talking to a 3rd party that is completely impartial helps. It may not be the 'Pagan' solution that you are looking for but, sometimes secular solutions are the best.
)o( Blessed Be!

Answer 10

Ask the goddess or mother earth to help you,you will have to want to do this and work on it.Anything can happen if you want it bad enough.


(Many blessings)