Hi: I am planning on renewing our vows in november, but i have a problem and i would like some advice... my mom wanted me and my husband to renew our vows for our 10th wedding anniversary and we have everything taken care of right down to the wedding rings... now my mom is in the hospital having undergone some extensive hip surgery and she has to go to a rehab center to recooperate... she is going to be 83 yrs old in 2 weeks and i was wondering should we postpone the renewal ceremony or should we go on as planned???? she will be home by then but i am torn as to what to do... if u can help with the advice please let me know... god bless u all and thank u for the answers...
2007-09-11 16:26:01 · 29 answers · asked by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Hello you dear sweet lady,
If anything,I would think that your mom would find it a happy occassion to look forward to after the misery she must be going through.The fact that you even thought of putting it off just goes to show what a wonderful lady she raised.Whatever you decide...I wish you,your man,and your mother all the best regardless of what path you choose to take.
God Bless you and yours sweety.xoxoxo
Annette
2007-09-11 16:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by annettekendall@rogers.com 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seeing as a vow renewal ceremony is basically an anniversary celebration, like a party, just go on as planned. It's not like it's a wedding, or a do-over wedding. Hopefully you know that....
It should just be family and close friends getting together for the blessing/ceremony, followed by a dinner and a bit of a party.
2007-09-12 00:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom will be home there is no reason to cancel. If it makes you feel better, why not ask your mom directly? Chances are she will tell you to go ahead and if she is home, she may be able to enjoy it. Congratulations on 10 yrs. of marriage and the kind of husband worth renewing your vows! You are truly lucky and blessed -all the best!
2007-09-11 16:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Wildfire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom was one of the persons who wanted you to renew your vows with your husband right? I am sure that she will be very happy to witness this renewal of vows and not even her present condition would stop her from being present in that event. So you should go on as planned.
2007-09-11 17:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by DR. MCVDQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is important to u that your mother can be there. Maybe you can talk to the companies you are involved with and they can help u to change the date or organize things in a way so she doesn't feel left out. A hip surgery may take a while to recover from but at least she'd be there and I think in the long run of things that memory will benifit u more than saving money and maybe upseting some of the your guest.
2007-09-11 16:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by coley200722 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all the planning you've done and the fact that you can never get a 10th anniversary back, I think you should go on with it. Try to find a creative way to allow your mother to attend the festivities without putting too much strain on her recovering hip. I am sure if you ask her, she wouldn't want you to postpone just because she was laid up.
2007-09-11 16:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice. Talk to your Mom. See what she has to say, You said she will be home by then if she has completed rehab and is back home there should be no reason why she should not be able to attend. They wouldn't release her from rehab before she is ready. Congrats on the renewal vows, Hope your Mom is feeling better soon
2007-09-11 16:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can, I would wait for your mom. This is something that she obviously wanted to be there for. If you already have made definate plans and paid for and planned out everything, go ahead and go for it, she will still be happy for you (If you bring the pictures). I would love for my parents to be able to make it to my 10th anniversary and I am sure that your mom will understand either way what you choose. You are your parents child and with that she will be happy never the less.
2007-09-11 17:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by J E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford postponing it, I would hold off until your mom can be there when she's feeling well. She's gonna be 83.
You have a choice of seeing your mom's sad tears when she has to miss this event....or seeing the happy tears as her daughter renews her wedding vows.
Sounds like a no-brainer to me.....if you can afford it.
Congratulations, my dear! Have a wonderful day no matter what you decide.
.
2007-09-11 16:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask HER, NOT us!
If SHE says go on as planned, then do so without guilt.
If SHE says that she won't be fully recovered by then, and really wants to be present, you can postpone if you'd like.
You could always find someone to take care of her during that time that she will be at your wedding.
2007-09-12 03:05:21 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋