Would you give up your Social Life Dating for 7 weeks to make Money $$$ ?

Question

I have a just started a Temporary 6 month long Software development project.
Im 30 years old and have about 160k in equity in my house and no debt so Im not sure why Im busting my butt like this to mak eeven more dough.
I guess I like the challenge while Im young and single. lol
It will pay equal to 3 years salary in just 6 months.
But I will be working insane hours.
For the next 7 weeks starting to tomorrow until Halloween I will be working 7 days a week for an average of 70 hours.
I will take either Friday or Saturday night off to just chill out and relax.
I simply dont have time for my friends and I think Im not goign to even bother dating anyoen for 7 weeks.
After the first grueling 7 weeks my work schedule will be 5 days a week - 10 hours a day and one half of 5 hours until first Day of Spring.
Sooo I still will have a hard time keeping up with my friends and also spending much time dating.
My friends are ACTUALLY annoyed that I will be going dark & incognito

The hardest part is the next 7 weeks and then Ive told everyone I will have a couple nights a week to breath and be their fun friend again.
Also a couple guys who want to date me acted offended that Im opting to be a workaholic right now.
How do I explain to people that this is only temporary and once in a lifetime deal for me ?
I want them to know i care but let me drink starbucks, red bull and work like a maniac in peace for 7 weeks .
Thanks!

Also one guy i DID like a lot who is hot and smart upset me by saying 7 weeks is TOO LONG for him to wait to see me and he'll explore his other options for now.

Answer 1

If you want the money and might even enjoy the work/experience then I don't think 7 weeks is all that long. You should feel happy you're popular and people care but it shouldn't be too hard to keep in touch, they should understand this is important for you and you can always figure everything out once you're done.

Now if the hot smart guy can't wait 7 weeks then what does he want from you? Sounds like he can't be that great a catch or can't really like you in that case. (But it depends...if you just want a little fling or not...)

Answer 2

3 years worth in 6 month!!!, Where do I sign up? The facts of life is that you will always need money. You may have money now but who knows what disaster may strike tomorrow. For example I got laid off from the company I worked for. They gave me 30 days to re apply for an internal job again. Lucky for me I got rehire but many others didn't. Over night you could loose everything. The economy at the moment is not doing so well and getting a job is very hard. Pretty much all companies are not hiring. They rather hire internally.

I say take the job. The guy you like may not be there in the end though. Then again, who is to say he was going to be there in 6 month without you taking the job. I think that if its a 1 time deal then go for it. I would not base my life around something like that all the time. Opportunities like that don't come too often. I say take the job and sacrifise yourself for that 6 month. Then after is done you can relax and spent all your energy looking for a boy toy (or girl toy if that is your inclination). You can then have kids without having to worry about the next paycheck. I mean if you want kids that is. Don't take it the wrong way but you are close to your age limits to having kids so if that is what you want then you don't have much time left. Beleive me with kids money makes a big difference. With kids everything is more expensive. If you go to the movies then you end up paying for at least 3 people. Food, clothes, electricity it all multiplies fast. That extra cash will definetly help.

A fellow co-worker told me once about me finnishing a second degree. I said to him that a course here and there seemed like too much work and time invested. He said, that time will pass anyways whether I took a few extra courses or not. How do I see myself in 3 years he asked? So, ask yourself the same question. how do you see yourself in 6 months? I think your friends will still be there. If not there will always be new friends down the road.

Answer 3

No offense but seriously and friends or a guy that would drop you for trying to make a living and surviving aren't worth having. I mean I think it be much better to find some friends in that job that understand what you are going through and maybe over time find a guy at that job or wait until things even out for you. Cause with a job like that, you don't need the added stress from whiny friends and a guy that probably wants you to pay more attention to him than to your own needs. I also don't understand why your friends just can't call you when get home or leave a message or something and can talk over the phone. Not like you have to hang with them all the time either.

Answer 4

Are you set with your finance? Not talking about the equity that you have in your house. If so, then why take on the project? Do what is important to you, if you rather have the time to hang out with your friends and date. Then so be it. On the other hand, if this development project can enhance your career and bring in some big bonuses for you and a nice salary. I would gladly give up 7 or 12 weeks social life without a second thought. Remember you doing this for you and no one else, make as much money as you can. And if your friend don't understand it. Then they have issues, how many of your so called friend will come around to bail you out (finance) when you call upon them. Can you depend on the guy you dating to help you out in a finance crisis? He going to tell you he have is on bills to take care of and drop you like a hot plate. this is a no brainer!!!

Answer 5

I know what working 70 + hours is like.

I applaud your efforts and determination.
As a women, I think that you are setting a great example.

What I did when I opened new restaurants was inform EVERYONE through email and calls that I would be busy for a period of time and during that time I would keep them all in my thoughts and looked forward to seeing them all when the project was over. I always planned a party, soiree or get together. Most people were receptive except for a few selfish and insecure women who weren't really worth the time in the long run.

Have fun, enjoy what you do, and let others know that you are motivated to meet a goal and will celebrate with them in 7 weeks. Who knows, you may motivate a few along the way.

Just be sure to take time for yourself, and stay healthy.

Good luck-
KOA

Answer 6

Well, for me this is a very simple thing. Sometimes you have to do what is best for you, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Sadly, though, it is at a time like this when you will discover who your true friends are. They are the ones that, while they may not understand, will still be supportive of you and will still be there for you when you are able to have a social life again. As for what to tell them so that they will understand? There may be nothing you can say or do to help with this. Unfortunately it is something they need to figure out for themselves. Simple, but painful, truth is that if they care for you enough, value your friendship and respect you for who you are, then whether or not they understand, they will deal with it and once your social sabbatical is over you can spend some good quality time with them.

Answer 7

If you're serious about getting into the business, it's best to start low key first. Don't sign anything until you've thought about it for a long time. Sometimes it's good to just get the experience under your belt, even if it's a bad experience. With a bad experience you can learn from your mistakes and know what not to do again when you look around for other labels.

Answer 8

First off I would mention that you are getting 3 years worth of salary in just 6 months...WOW! If that doesn't get them to support you and cheer you on from the sidelines then I would say that your friends and perspective boyfriends might be a little selfish. this is something you want to do so do it. Just be carefull not to go insane. Long work hours are hard lol.

Good luck and try to have fun.

Answer 9

First off let me just say you got it made. You seem like a really nice and cool person I sure would wait seven month to date and when your back to your normal schucdule I'll help you spend that money.LOL. If I was you I would take that job in a heart beat. This a once in a life time chance why not make the most of it. Your friends will understand and if they don't fu*ck them. That guy your interested in will be there in seven month, and if not oh well. Its not like you guys had any thing serious. Guys like him come once a month, good friends like yours come every couple of years, a job like this one come once in a life time.

Answer 10

do it... you will secure your financial situation even more... you sound like an attractive young woman, so you shouldn't worry about guys picking u up later on... after all is well and done, refinance your home up to 80 percent of the home value, and use the extra money to invest in a stable yield income portfolio... even w/ higher payments, you should be able to pay the mortgage w/o any problems....Oh, do take out enough from your funds to last you 6 months and place either in a cd or just your checking account... and do treat yourself to a wonderful vacation w/i a year's time... you will absolutely love yourself for it...