True christians?

Question

I have this relative who is a Christian. She believes in God everything is possible.But she gossips around and ask his father to sustain their financial needs(her 4 children) whenever he forgets to give her allowance. She believes she knows it all and yet she upsets her father by puting importance on her mislead faith. What is her problem? When you dont give her money she will be upset though. When their is a job offer to her , sho wouldn't accept it saying she won't have time with her children.and she gossips everyone around while in their backs. Is that a Christian. Criticizing non-christians? beleiving "giving to the less fortunate ones"

Answer 1

She might have good intentions of trying to be a christian...but I don't believe that she is what you call a true christian!! Gossiping, Passing judgement, and not doing her part to help support her family when they are in obvious need of money is not christian mannerisms....she needs to read the Bible about judging, gossiping, and about doing what she can to make her situation better!! God Helps those who Help Themselves!! Nobody's Perfect....but being a true Christian, you have to be able to admit your faults and repent of sins!! Hopefully she does this!

God Bless!!

Answer 2

What is her problem?
She has a sin problem and a greed problem. Something many of us can identify with. She may also qualify for the sin of laziness.

Is that a Christian? Criticizing non-Christians?
First, there needs to be a definition of criticism. Not all criticism is bad. Yet all "gossip" is in fact a sin. So is "gossiping" Christian? No not at all.
She can still be a Christian and struggle with the sin of gossiping. She needs to acknowledge this in her life. (btw, sometimes it takes someone pointing it out to her) Admit weakness, ask for forgiveness from God and others she may have involved. And promise and seek ways to make amends and to gossip less. To the point of being gossip free.
If you can't be a true Christian if you sin, then I think we are all in trouble. The question of true Christian or not, is do we act as holier than thou or do we admit that we are imperfect in need of God's grace?

Answer 3

Well, it sounds like some un-Christ like behavior.
Perhaps she should read Proverbs 11:13, 20:19 or maybe 26:20 Or if the New testament is more her taste Romans 1:29 or 1Tim 5:13 to learn about gossiping.
She also needs to relook at Proverbs 31, about a woman who takes care of her home and her family - to include making money.
Please understand, however, Christians are just human, and this is where her human frailty is more pronounced.

Answer 4

As a Christian we consider gossiping as bearing false wittiness. We all sin and fall short with out the blood of Jesus and His love to carry us through. If you are a christian or her friend you should confront her in love and remind her that bearing false witness is a sin and that is what gossip is. If you are a christian you should pray about the issue and ask for God's guidance. Remember we are all God's children and He loves us all the same. Those with strong faith and those with weak faith and even those with no faith. So be God's hands and feet. May God bless all who do His work!

Answer 5

This gossipy behavior is not a practicing true Christian. Depending on the situation with whoever "his" father is, and the money (what about the kidz Dad?) it's hard to tell what is going on. We really can't say if she has a reason to be mad or not. Four children is very hard to do and go to work too. I feel there are some missing facts.

With God everything is possible, is the correct saying. It may be she doesn't understand what that really means and how profound it really is?

Answer 6

As Christians we certainly aren't perfect but should be growing and becoming more Christlike as we go. We are all at different stages of development, so to speak. However it sounds as if your relative probably does not spend enough time in the Word of God and in prayer to grow. Some people stay baby Christians all their lives. Doesn't necessarily mean they are or are not a Christian. God bless!!

Answer 7

A Christian is a Christian by faith. Now she might be a single mother, and Dad might be a wealthy or well off man. I don't know from what you are saying.

If she is a gossip, a cheat, prone to getting prone with men, offensive with her language, lazy, or whatever, IF she trusts God for her salvation through Jesus Christ, she is saved.

Answer 8

There are many who wear a label that says "Christian", but they are not. To THOSE people, Jesus said that in that day, many will come and say "didn't we preach in your name" or "heal in your name" or other such things. Jesus will say to them, "I never KNEW you. Depart from me, you workers of iniquity."

Furthermore, Jesus said "You will know them by their fruit."

However, we aren't really in a position to judge the condition of her heart; only God can do that.

One of two possibilities exist here. Either your relative is NOT a Christian at all, or she is a very immature Christian and needs a LOT of growing up in her walk with God. Only time will tell.

In the meantime, you be the better Christian and give her the grace she needs at this time of her life.

Answer 9

That is what you call a "carnal Christian". They hear the Word of God , but there is no change within, no works behind the Word. We as Christians are required to change, if we do not, He says , we are none of His
God says also in His Word , that you shall know them by the fruit they bear.

Answer 10

I understand her desire to be with her children, but the rest of it doesn't sound all that Christian to me.

Note to Ol' Doc, I would give your answer more than one thumbs down if I could. After a response like that, don't make the mistake of calling Christians judgemental...as apparently you have just judged us all.