I been seeing this girl for the last month and a half. last night I hit the jackpot with her more then once. She's a sweat girl however I DONT WANT to hurt her feelings I want to keep her on the sidelines for a while but I dont want to be to obvious doing it. I also dont want her to know what Im trying to do either. When I was first seeing her I knew 2 month earlier she had a bad break up with her boyfriend I dont want to dump her totally I dont want to screw with her head either. I just want too keep her on the shelf for a while to give me sometime to see If I still want to go with her. She's wants to buy me rollerblades at modells for me so we can go skating In the park together. I think she wants a relationship like a couple like she had with her last boyfriend. I dont know what I want to do with her right now In all honestly I just wanted to have sex and I did. I respect this girl I dont want to HURT HER FEELINGS. any advice
2007-09-11 15:38:48 · 20 answers · asked by John g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what an as$hole! this is why good women end up on cops or some $hit. quit f*ckin around w/ her... the best thing you can do is leave her alone
2007-09-19 14:38:24 · answer #1 · answered by msmikki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first mistake you made was by disrespecting women and thinking that we are just there for MENS amusement as sexual toys. This is what is wrong with society as a hole. It is obvious that you don't respect her and definately do not respect yourself for treating other people this way.
You knew she was very vulnerable and still moved in to prey on her knowing that she would accept your love and hope it was honest and true. HOw can you live with yourself knowing that you took a trusting and accepting heart and twisted the """" out of it. Seriously how can you even hope to win in this situation.
Are you using her for sex or money??? You are not caring about her feelings ....at all .. Go buy a fake """"y and use it instead ... honestly less stress and less guilt later.
Also, no offense but you should change the mentality. You cannot keep some girl or guy waiting around til the better one comes along....You will ruin her life and looking back on it she will feel as if you have just wasted her time and hate you for it.
You are better off being bluntly honest with her in the long run because she may respect you more than later. Even though she may not talk to you for a while or forever at least you won't have to worry later about some girl who YOU YOU YOU drove crazy because of how YOU YOU YOU hurt HER !!!
DO you understand where and what I am saying???? Later on you will claim to your friends that the crazy >>>> did and said this and it could have all been avoided if you had just let it die without going too far by lying and making a bad situation worse by messing with her head like you have already done...
You knew that she was a "relationship" type girl ,,, how would you feel if some girl was just using you for money giving you no sex no security and then just out of no where with the ring in your hand said " I am sorry but I was just using you.. bye"..
that is messed up..
So do the right thing.. tell her right now you just want a friend with benefits and if she doesn't want that you'll understand but DO NOT.. ignore telling her that and continue to use her.. believe me your car will regret it later....(sugar in tank or worse. like new paintjob),,,,anyway..
think about it.
2007-09-12 18:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, If you really did have any respect for her you wouldn't have f8cked her and then now be on this website asking for advice on how to dump her. You said you wanted to f*ck her but you don't want anything else. Why don't you try to get to know the person before you go sticking your d*ck in the pot and being disrespectful. you need to think about where a girl is coming from. What if you get her pregnant? Are you gonna pay child support? Are you gonna be there for her? Do you really give a f*ck? Sounds like you are just sowing your wild oats to me. Go bang some hookers or something and leave the ones alone that really care about you until you are ready to be cared about. What about her feelings? How would you feel if she put you on a shelf and shopped around for a guy with a bigger d*ck, that lasted longer and paid the bills. Hmmmmm........? I guess that is why I'm gay. At least mine takes a licking and keeps on ticking and pays the bills and is there next week and I'm not waiting around to see if they like me. F8ck that!
2007-09-11 15:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Set her free, man.
It's obvious that you don't respect yourself or her.
You can only hurt her more by pretending that you want to be with her.
She may hurt somewhat now when you get rid of her, but at least she wouldn't have invested any more time in the relationship than necessary.
Finally never forget this Biblical proverb: You reap what you sow.
To put that in today's language, you will get yours. It will be worse than what you did to that sweet girl, too.
To all the women out there who participate in the Yahoo Answers website. Read this question well and learn from it. He's not the only one out there who feels the way he does.
2007-09-19 07:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-13 06:45:42 · answer #5 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said: She's a sweet girl, you don't want to hurt her feelings, in all honesty you just wanted to have sex with her and
YOU RESPECT HER?!?!?
From the way you have this all worded, respect is definately something you DON'T have.
You are the epitome of a loser to take advantage of her while she's already vulnerable from her last relationship. Incredibly selfish and childish. What you didn't bargin for is that eventually it will all come back on you, it always does. Enjoy your karma.
2007-09-11 16:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by tljessup 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hunny. First and foremost, she's not a toy that you can put back in a shelf and then take her out when you feel like playing with her. You should have considered her feelings before you took it to that next level. I don't know what to tell you but to be completely honest with her and get ready for her reaction, it won't be good.
2007-09-19 14:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by Spanish Mami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are some kind of insensitive jerk, you know that!
You don't want to screw with her head or hurt her feelings, you just want to screw her? And that's not hurting anything?
You have a screw loose bud!
You are totally shameless! If you respected this girl so much, then why did you have sex with her when you didn't care for her? You go to professionals for that! Some piece of Sh*t; you make my skin creep!
2007-09-11 15:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Uh-oh, sounds like somebody wasn't upfront about his intentions from the beginning! I'm afraid you're stuck now, you can lie to her and pretend to be a boyfriend or you can be a jerk and tell her to buzz off. There's no way to get off the hook with this one, but let it be a lesson to you in the future: BE HONEST FROM THE BEGINNING. You say you don't want to mess with your head or hurt her but you know what? That's EXACTLY what you're doing and this poor girl will now have 2 painful experiences with guys in her recent past. Nice work.
I suggest you lay off women for awhile until you mature enough to be trusted around them. You want to know why women have chips on their shoulders and act crazy around men? It's from getting jerked around by knucklehead boys like yourself. Good luck growing up and figuring out what you want, and better luck to the girl you're about to hurt.
2007-09-11 16:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Ahni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad. You are in the dictionary next to "jerk." You want to "keep her on the shelf for a while"? I hope she reads these things and realizes it's you. And runs for her life. You need prayer.
2007-09-19 14:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by rocksister 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋