I've known this girl for about 3 years, but we haven't really talked in a while. Recently, she accidentally called me and we started talking again. We talked almost daily (phone and texts) for about a week and a half and we met up twice very casually. It seemed like we showed a great interest in one another.... we talked about things that we had in common and we basically established that we had a liking for each other. Well, a few days ago we decided to go to a concert. She stayed up until 3 a.m. the previous night, so i could tell that she was tired. She seemed like she was having a great time at the concert, but when it was only halfway through she told me that she was very tired and she was wanted to go get some sleep for tailgating the next day. I walked her to her car and we said a pretty generic goodbye for this type of situation. Well we were supposed to meet up the next day... but that never happened. It has now been 4 days and she is not answering my calls.
2007-09-11 14:22:04 · 11 answers · asked by mike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm trying not to be too invasive with calls and texts. I would try to confront her in person, but we go to different universities and I wouldn't see her unless we plan to meet. Some people are saying she may just need time... others are saying forget her, but i don't want to. We happen to share a great deal in common and i like her very much. I have just been sick over this for the last few days..... What the hell is going on???
2007-09-11 14:22:39 · update #1
At this point I can really only think of two possibilities.
a) something horrendous has happened and she has been completely unable to get back to you. Arrested? Dead? SWARMED BY RAVENING LOCUSTS! Or just absolutely swamped with homework, and is thoughtless and hasn't gotten back to let you know why. Who knows. It does sound like she has a busy social life though, so my bet would be more likely:
b) She's not interested, and either is a complete flake and doesn't want to bother returning your messages, or is too empathetic and doesn't want to hurt you by telling you she's not interested.
Either way: the ball is in her court. If she's talked with you regularly for a week and a half then completely cut contact, that's a pretty telling sign. I'd suggest waiting a week without calling/texting to see if she contacts you (sometimes not hearing from someone gets them to turn around and contact you instead) -- and if not, then move on.
2007-09-11 14:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Katie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your from two different universities and she probably realizes how hard it is going to be to actually start something with you. She might not want to get attached or something like that. Or maybe she just wasn't into you anymore for some reason... Women, I'll tell you. The only thing harder then figuring out what's on their mind is finding the cl..... well you know, but am I right or what.
2007-09-11 21:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's scared too. Because I know when i start seeing a person and maybe starting to like them a lot, i get nervous. It's mainly because i don't know if he would feel the same way about me. So I really think that until you know something, don't give up. I mean, you guys talked for such a long time, that there must have been something that caused her to act this way.... there could have been some event in her life that pre-occupied her time... and yes, sometimes, when people are really busy with something in their life, they don't have time to answer the phone.
good luck
2007-09-11 21:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's sick, she barely had any sleep do that makes you more disarable for sickness or something, and then concerts are loud so head central. Sh'e probably sick, or she may have gotten hurt(not likely just guessing) call her home not her cell if you haven't, and if you talk to her friends call them.
2007-09-11 21:27:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably feels like she needs some space. you might wanna go over to her house and ask her what is wrong and if that dont work than just wait a little and if she starts calling again then take it slow well good luck hope i helped a little
2007-09-11 21:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by <3Animals<3~4<3Ever!~&l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be feeling well about the relationship. Maybe she's busy. Also she might need sometime to see what's in front of her. She might be deciding if she wants you......
2007-09-11 21:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kamcia_Dacia_12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the sounds of it she is confused about how she feels about you and is trying to push you away to see if maybe you weren't right for her. try to call her and leave a message saying that you would love to see her and would like to talk to her.
2007-09-11 21:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by crazy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to hurt a little......but she prolly wasnt tired and just bored....the best advice is to go find someone else......im sure you like her a lot but i doubt it will work out in the long run.....you seem really sweet and id hate for you to waste your time with someone whos going to just avoid you!
2007-09-11 21:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UGH!!!! Relationships suck!!! I think you need to txt her and ask if you guys can meet up to talk, then be blunt and honest and ask her whats going on, and ask her to be honest with you, and tell you how she feels about you. I f she refuses to meet, move on.
2007-09-11 21:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Celi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot-- call her and ask her...
2007-09-11 21:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋