Tell the truth or cover it?

Question

There is A who told me about B(criticism). I told B about what A told me. B grew angry to A. But A explain something I don't know about. And now it seems like Im the bad one here. A even get C and D to ignore me. She is the one backstab B ,now everything seems to be me My fault. Im just telling the truth.

HI for evryone who answered. I told B about what A told me because it's too bad of A to criticize B. B pays for her house, electrical bills, food and school fees of her children. FYI my ears are burning with her gossiping that' s why I ended the situation for b to know the truth.

Answer 1

If you are told something in confidence,does not give you an automatic right to tell a third party.You are the victim of your own mouth.

Answer 2

You should have ignored what A told you about B. You knew that telling B what A said would start a big brou-ha-ha.....and would upset B.

Your punishment is the complete trashing you are receiving from A, B, C, D and everyone else.

It is always better to NOT pass on information that you know the listener will not like.

In Ancient Greece and other ancient cultures, they used to KILL the messenger.

Answer 3

I hate to make this sound so bad, but what you were doing was gossiping.

If 'B' trusted you with something, you never should've told 'A' about it in the first place.


OMG... I sound like I'm judging you now! What I really mean to do is tell you what I think.

Anyway... I guess this helped you see a thing or two.

Peace.

Answer 4

Sorry to disagree, but you were gossiping and breaking A's trust.

You learned an important lesson. Do not repeat what others tell you in confidence. Ever.

Apologize to A and B. Tell them you were wrong and let them know you will never do that again.

Answer 5

I have a nack for putting my foot in it, too! The best advice I can give you is "DO NOT REPEAT WHAT YOU HEAR". Yes, you are telling the truth, but in this case, it;s not your truth to tell...you are playing he said, she said, and you will always come out the "bad" one when you do. When someone bad mouths another person to you, either tell them they should tell the person to their face or listen and forget what was said. This person isn't going to own-up to what they said, no back bone, so you become the bad person, ie escape-goat and they come out smelling like a rose. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

You are the bad one here.

When someone speaks to you in confidence about another, you were responsible to keep it confidential between you and the one who told you in the first place.

You may be telling the truth, but it wasn't your business to go and betray the confidence of the other person by exposing them or what they said to you in private to the other person.

Answer 7

That's a great choice. Not only will you get things cleared up, but you will feel alot better. Sometimes telling the truth can be difficult and painful (i should know) but it's the right thing to do.

Answer 8

It sounds to me like you were looking for attention rather than telling the truth.

You got attention all right. The wrong kind.

In the future you'll have this experience to help you know what to do. Each one has to be weighed on its own merits.

Answer 9

when someone tells what another person has told them in confidence
and that person tells someone else ... especially the person involved
then trust is broken

A and B will make up
but you will be the one they cant trust with secrets

it is just the way it is
so always stay out of any gossiping
just tell them in future that you dont want to know

Answer 10

Tell me if I'm out of line here.
My mother told me once,"If you can't say something good about someone, you shouldn't say anything at all".
Can you make this fit your situation?