do you get mad when you see an out of control child throwing a fit in the store?

Question

you know the kind of kid who argues back with the parent and hits the parent and falls out all over the floor. what do you think the solution is to this problem?

Answer 1

MAD?
No.
GLAD I don't have any children?
YES!!!

Answer 2

I'm a mother of a 5 yr old and happy that I never had to deal with that. Although there are many parent's with that problem. Truth is, alot of them are easily given their way, just so they shut up. This causes them to see,this is how I get what I want. It happens once and if not stopped that first time,it becomes a routine. They know the parent won't do anything in public so it's so much easier. Then the parent is embarrassed and doesn't know what to do. It's hard for the parent and stressful. You know staring is the worst thing,the parent just doesn't know how to deal sometimes and it's okay because children don't come with and instruction manual,but it's hard and you can stop it if the child is young enough,but it takes patience for both parent and child. It takes time and lets be honest whether your a parent of one or 10 there is never time. You have to make time for that child and hope you get tips from other parents instead of rude comments or stares and I don't mean while the child is having a tantrum to give them a tip. lol that is the worst timing. If you have a friend with a child like this or your own,never wrong or embarrassing to reach out. We are parents and it's never easy. But staring and rude comments don't help.

Answer 3

I don't get mad at the child. I am annoyed by the mother/father. No 2-4 year old should control their parents. A tantrum sometimes is natural and part of growing up, but when you see the kid going wild and the parent not paying any attention is terrible. And then you see the parent slap the kid too hard because they finally have had enough- that is not parenting!

Answer 4

The parent needs to take parenting classes, like NOW. Some folks have no clue on how to raise children, so instead, they simply ignore their child's poor behaviors while the rest of us suffer through it.

I was in a craft store and this woman and her 4 year old were walking down the aisle. The kid kept touching everything and the mother didn't seem to care. Then the child hit an acrylic box and a thousand beads scattered all over the aisle ... definately dangerous ... and mom grabbed the kid's hand and kept walking. I was going to help them to try and pick it up, but she didn't seek out a clerk for help, tell her child to pick some up or even make an effort herself. She just kept walking. If that had been MY store, I would have at least expected an apology!

Answer 5

I don't get angry, but occassionally annoyed. It could be for several reasons this behavior is occurring so you have to be open minded and not quick to judge. The parent absolutely needs to get the child to calm down when in public, or take the child outside to discuss or as I like to say "modify his or her behavior", or take them to the restroom until the child straightens up. I don't think belittling the child or verbally or physically attacking them in public is the proper thing to do, and only makes the parent look worse as one. Children should be told ahead of time how they are to act, what the consequences are if they act up, and also be given either a job in the store, such as holding something, or bring along an item to occupy their mind.

Answer 6

I've considered beating the hell out of the parent an adequate solution. I know that is wrong, it is just a fantasy.

I think the most effective solution would be for the management of the store to ask the family to leave as they are disturbing the other patrons.

Answer 7

Unless the kid is mentally retarded or autistic or has some other major disability, it's the parents fault. Bad behavior is not a disability. Parents are the ones who have the power to control their child's behavior. I don't feel anything when I see an out of control kid... I try not to judge the parent for their kids behavior because I don't know if that kid has a disability which makes him/her act that way.

Answer 8

The parent should not bring the child to the store. This is hard, because sometimes you really have to go to a store, and there is no other place for the child to go. In those cases, make it FAST, and get the heck out of there.

This child has learned that the parent will eventually give in just to shut him up. So the parent has created a monster.

The child may also have a mental disorder, so we should take that into consideration as a possibility.

When it is a very small child, and the child is just crying because of being tired and cranky, then I want to tell the parent, "Take him home, for goodness sake."

Answer 9

I always think whether it be a store or a restaurant it is the managers job to ask that parent to take the child out. But of course they never do since they want the business. Sad hope for the future of this country since very few people know how to parent

Answer 10

It's not so much as being mad at the child, but the parent allows the child to behave this way. If the parent has to deal with this nonsense at home they deserve it, but when we have to hear, and see all the annoying craziness it's not fair. Also the parents should be ashamed and should learn different ways to dissapline their children. Learn to be the boss, and don't bring the brat in public until you get him/her under control.

Answer 11

Mad... NO! I do feel for the parent. EVERY child has tried this at least once. When my son tried it , I was caught so off-guard. I just left him in the buggy and went to the end of the aisle and peeked around at him. When he settled, I went back to him and he said "Mommy, where did you go" and I told him that I could not let him talk to me that way and thought that he must have NEEDED some time alone.