I'm 30 and still struggle with this one.
2007-09-11 13:51:27 · 25 answers · asked by what's the point 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we will always feel the pressure i think because we loved and respected our parents and wanted them to be proud of us so the pressure was always on us not to disapoint parents we loved so much even after our parents die we still want to be all they think we were.
2007-09-11 14:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and my parents still argue about my choice of career. My dad think I should become a doctor like him(not). And my mom think I should work in the areas that has something to do with math(yeah right). I've choosen my career and no one is changing my mind I've always wanted to be a social worker. I just love the idea of having responsibilty to place kids in safe homes. I plan on doing this for 10-20 years before I retire and start a huge home for abused, homeless, and orphaned children. My parents think I'm crazy but its my passion I love children.
2007-09-11 20:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel pressure to live up to my parents expectations but I do feel a responsibility to be the quality of person that they raised me to be.
My mother is dead 14 years and my father passed on 4 years ago. The values they taught me are one connection that I still have to them.
I must say tho' that my parent's expectations were those of quality of character, spirituality, and compassion for other people rather than expectations that I have a particular career and or follow a certain path. Their greatest wishes and expectations were that I would find my own gifts and passions, and live my life happily and fulled. I pretty great set of pressures to have on life.
2007-09-11 21:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by keezy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did at 30 as well, to a degree. But you will find, as you grow older, that your parents gave you guidance. Who you become, must be up to you, or you will never be truly happy. It is wrong to live your life for another's expectations, even your parents, and they would be wrong to ask it of you.
Live your life in a fashion they would approve of, but be yourself. My parents are Jehova's Witnesses. Imagine the expectations they had for me!! They were disappointed for a long time, but have finally decided that I'm an ok person and raise my kids well. Heck I knew that all along. I just refused to be told what to with my life, and it took them till I was 47 to realize that maybe they were wrong.....
2007-09-11 21:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes on a daily basis. I'm reminded of some of my bad career decisions on a weekly basis. I was apparently supposed to go to law school, instead I joined the army and decided to try other ventures. I don't think that it will ever end, with that said I still love my parents and can understand that they see things differently than I do.
2007-09-11 20:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ed D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! I used to...but not no more...when you try to be someone elses idea of a "you" then you can't really be "you" because you are trying to be another person other than who you really are...(that is frustrating!) as far a good values, and things of that sort, everybody has that, but, i gotta be "me" if i can't be me, then i am living a "lie" pleasing to others, well, i can do that, i did that for my bosses..but they didn't change who i was? You'll get mixed up and confused as to who you really are and be heading for the loony bin if you ain't you! lol
2007-09-11 21:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they have done their job well, you still feel some pressure. Be glad you still have parents who care how you turn out. I lost both of mine in my 20's and I still wish they were around to pat me on the back for turning out the way they trained me.
2007-09-11 20:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW how you feel. The way I got around it is by making it conscious and fighting against it every time it got in my way.
When you feel anxious about it, tell yourself that you are feeling like that because you are not living up to your parents' ideas but that is illogical because you are proud of yourself.
You have to fake it till you make it. It's hard but is the only way.
2007-09-11 20:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by lacluna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to but now I've accepted that I am my own person. I will never live up to my parents and thats ok. I just do my best and if thats not good enough for them thats too bad
2007-09-11 21:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by hollygolightly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 as well and I am just like you I think it makes it harder for those of us that are still at home too.
2007-09-11 20:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋