I allowed my son to go with his father for Christmas and when my son came back he told me that Santa Clause hadn't left any presents for him. My son was 4 at the time. I have another son who also goes with his dad and his family and he came back with gifts. When I asked my son's father why he did this to him he said it was to hurt me because I wouldn't give him any money back from the child support I get. Earlier that month he had been complaining to me about how he didnt have any money for Christmas. How broke he was but when I dropped my son off I saw the Christmas tree and all the decorations at his house. My son came back home excited from the visits because he said Santa had been to his daddy's house because he saw a lot of gifts. Earlier I had commented to his father about a drumset my son wanted and he buys a drumset for his other son. My son had nothing. I played it off to my son like it was no big deal. His father later said that I told him not to get him anything.
2007-09-11 13:46:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell him this year if he wants to spend time with the kids at christmas time then it will be at your house for 1-2 hours. that hes not going to take it out on your son and if hes not man enough to do whats right,then he loses.
2007-09-11 14:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness! That is so cruel! Why people act like that to a child is beyond me.
I don't know how you could really explain that to a child. I had similar things happen to my son and I never knew what to say. Usually when he'd cry about stuff I'd just have to not try and explain and instead just told him I was sorry and give him the biggest hug! Broke my heart as I'm sure it did yours. Just from now on have Christmas at your house so that you can make sure he's having a good day instead of one feeling left out.
2007-09-11 14:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex, is a real winner. If your son goes again, tell him not to be disappointed if he doesn't get anything, because Santa just didn't know where to find him. That would also be the last time he would go. Make sure you have some presents set back for him. When the kids get older they will know why you left their dad, for reasons like this.
2007-09-11 13:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have offered to pay for half of the drum set if it was expensive. Other than that, you son is being used as a pawn by a very vindictive, ill-natured, immature person. Next Christmas, just get him what he wants from Santa and let the chips fall where they may with his father. Just make sure Santa comes to your house. Don't tell his father what he wants for Christmas, you get if for him.
2007-09-11 14:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell your son anything. He will find out on his own what kind of creep his Dad is. Stop trying to "cover or explain" the things Dad does. Just tell your son "I'm sorry that happened to you." and leave it.
2007-09-11 14:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would read Him the Riot Act, before I let Him know what a Scum-Bag He Really Is! He could not come up with a good enough excuse to cover that BLUNDER! He Has A Pay-Day coming........You Reap what You sow!
And He will deserve everything He gets......
2007-09-11 14:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's 4 and this is now Sept. where was this question for the last 9 months?
2007-09-11 13:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give your son as much love, affection, and praise as you possibly can without spoiling him or overdoing it, because one day he will need a supportive, loving parent, once he realizes that he only has one.
2007-09-11 13:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Renee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋