Why would a guy act all lovey dovey on a girl and ask her out on a second date if he's just going to stand her up and lie to her the next day? I met a guy at work who was 23(he's 24 now) and i'm 18. we started talking and he asked me for my phone number, so i gave it to him. he called me a couple times and we went out on a date one night. the next week he asked me if i wanted to go out the next night and i said yes. he hugged me every time he saw me and was asking guys if they had seen "his girl" (talking about me). the next night he never called me, when we were supposed to go out at 9 after he got off work. he left me a message that night saying that he didn't get off until 11 and he would try and call me later. he lied about when he got off work, b/c he did get off at 9 that night and he lied about when he left the voicemail. i don't understand how a guy could all of a sudden change his mind about me. he hasn't called me back since that voicemail either. what do u think?
2007-09-11 13:42:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his boss told me that he got off at 9 that night, and a friend of mine looked at the payroll for me, so i know for a fact that he left at 9 that night. i left him a message a couple days later, but i haven't called him since that. he stood me up about 3 weeks ago, and i can't get over it. it makes me sooo ill and frustrated.
2007-09-11 13:55:26 · update #1
I think he's a douche-bag and you my dear should not waste another minute on him. Find someone who will not insult your intelligence!
2007-09-11 13:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by charm1936 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's male and he's a jerk- simple. Sorry to say this but 90% of guys are jerks. Doesn't matter how many say "i'm not like that, i'm different", thats just what they want you to believe. At the end of the day, their still all the same. You need to have expectations about the type of guy you wanna be with, that way you know what you do and don't want. By knowing your expectations, it will determine whether or not you think he is right for you. I always say if you have bad experiences with men, yeah it sucks big time, yes you feel like a box of chocolates because it depresses you that much(never resort to comfort food when you feel this emotional, there are other things to take your mind off it) but the thing is, even though their bad experiences it teaches you and you learn what it is you do and don't want in a person, helps you to make the next choice a better one, for that nxt guy who is "right" for you. Your young, life's too short to waste your time on jerks. Go out and have fun with your friends. I'm only 22 and i love being single and that's a choice i've made. If you wanna find someone nice, you will- when you least expect it and the time is right. Just remember to be picky!
Goodluck and all the best,
Terri
2007-09-11 21:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People sometimes change their minds on issues; I am sure you have done the same on occasions. That is what I think is happening now with this guy.Your piece did not indicate any other reason for his behavior hence that is the only logical explanation.However, to confirm my suspicions, call him again.First, rule out any chance that something is happening in his life now to explain his actions,that you have not done anything to offend him. and that if he lied ,there is no good reason for it.After you do that, you can just go straight to the point and ask him why he behaved the way you say he did.If he can come up with a credible and plausible explanation,then all is well.But if he can not explain his actions satisfactorily then take it from there and act accordingly.
2007-09-11 21:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he lied about what time he got off?? I wouldn't panic just yet. Wait until you hear from him, but don't keep calling him- you don't want to look psycho. Just wait it out. There may be a good explanation for his behavior. But if you aren't satisfied with what he has to say. Dump him!
2007-09-11 20:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had this happen to alot of people i know. guy gets all mushy at first then tries to avoid the girl later on. its usually when he's heard something bad about the girl(from his friends, which is pretty much standard gossip) and he just wants to stay far away as possible after. thats usually the case. but you shouldn't worry about that, nobodies worth your time if they make broken promises.
2007-09-11 20:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by julian_yong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a dog and you deserve better. Forget about this loser and find a better guy. Good Luck. Live Life to the Fullest and Enjoy Every Minute Of It.....
2007-09-11 20:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't speak to him any more, or if you have to in the line of work, be professional, polite, and distant. You are young. You will meet lots of wonderful guys who AREN'T in the least bit shady.
And don't waste time trying to analyze his behavior. He doesn't deserve you.
2007-09-11 20:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say ,...But you my dear are an arm trophy , for him to show off to the guys ...Find you a real man , he is still playing the field , and now has you in his game
2007-09-11 20:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes a jerk, he either found somone else and doesnt want to hurt your feelings, incase this other girls leaves him, and if she does, hes making up lies making it sound like it isnt his fault for standing you up, so hell have somone to fall back on if this other girl doesnt work out, thats my guess anyways, but either way, hes a jerk, and id give u on him, hes a jerkl anyways.
2007-09-11 20:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by oklndnatioon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-11 20:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Bigtymer-235 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋