Do you think anyone who disagrees with you hates you?

Question

I just answered a question about the various arguments against the existence of God. Then I read some of the other answers. One was "Why do you have to be so hating?" I was mystified by that, because the question had been written with really good manners, appropriate to a philosophical point of view. So why did this girl assume he hated her? Or her religion, come to that.

Answer 1

Nope, those two have nothing to do with each other. Plus I don't hate someone. I may dislike things they do but hate them isn't me.

In the case you are speaking of it's almost like she has assigned the word hating incorrectly. I mean she could have said hateful and it would have sounded better. It sounds like she is immature in her beliefs and knows no other way of voicing it.

Answer 2

If I believed that everyone that disagrees with me hates me then everyone would hate me!

I should be prone to paranoia anyway after some of the things I've been through but you know what? No way. I have no fear, that's a gift from God because I was a coward before my "reconstruction" in the image of Christ.

I've watched fundamentalist in Bible studies get very hot under the collar with one another over obscure passages in the scripture. Frankly it makes me think of alpha male dominance behavior by way of argument over scriptural interpretation.

Anyway believe what you want it's all a waste of time because God calls who he chooses in his own time and nothing will make it happen sooner unless it's a setup to show you how egotistical you get from thinking you were in any way responsible, or the person honestly seeks the kingdom of God, in which case the Father is calling them.

I'm only here to remind those that swear that the Bible is infallible of the words of Jesus whom they profess to follow:

John 15:17
These things I command you, that ye love one another

Matthew 7:1
Judge not, that ye be not judged.

Finally I'm here to say God loves you each and every one and doesn't send those he loves to hell so be encouraged.

Answer 3

It is difficult sometimes to have your own views challenged, particularly if you are certain that you are correct. So if my views are different to yours; and my views are correct, therefore your views are incorrect, or so the reasoning follows.

There is a difference between being almost convinced on an issue and being totally 100% certain. Whilst it is sometimes healthy to be a bit cynical about some new information there should always be some doubt about your own view. Without this there is no new learning, no real understanding.

When people have views they feel very strongly about, as in religion, it is sometimes difficult for them to be open to another's ideas or views. Then the accusation can only be that you are attacking my views, so you are attacking me. If you do this, then you hate me.

No matter how hard we try not to offend, there is always the risk that we will. Then, we as individuals can only take responsibility for our own voice and views.

Each time we communicate with another we risk that they may be offended but we can not take responsibility for this, only the other person can take responsibility for their own internalizations. All we can do is try to stay open minded and open to new thinking and views.

Great Question.

Answer 4

No I don't.

Personally I don't hate anyone, so can't imagine such a strong negative emotion, especially over a question on the internet.

Debate is the spice of life, I would think it was hell (or perhaps more likely heaven as others describe the place) if people agreed with me. It does nothing for ones intellect if people agree with them, so why would anyone even want that.

As for the girl you mention, many who are not confident with their own philosophies have a sense of fear when someone challenges their beliefs so that childishly think that a point of view that does not match their own is hateful, I am guessing?

Answer 5

No, I don't automatically believe because someone disagrees with me that they hate me. It depends on the actions and words of the person responding to me. If they are insulting or attack me, I will assume they either hate me or what I am saying (which usually makes me think I struck a nerve... if they don't truly care, they wouldn't insult or attack). I think many in here already have the assumption, though, that if you disagree then that means you hate because many do represent themselves in that manner.

Answer 6

Good point, but the same could be said for both sides. For multitudes have also accused Christians of "hating" by simply disagreeing with what they said.

So just because I disagree with you non-Christians doesn't mean I "hate" you, does it?

Answer 7

some people get ultra-protective and defensive about their religious beliefs, to the point that they see any disagreement, even a polite one, to be an attack to be met with a counterattack, like wrongfully accusing the disagreeing party of hating them.

It's too bad, because it puts a real damper on genuine discussions and exchanges of opinion.

Oh well, what can you do?

Blessings,
Lady Morgana )0(

Answer 8

It's easy to tell the difference between love and hate. Love excepts others ideas and thoughts and tries to understand them.
Hate has no care what you have to say and never considers other possibilities in life, their way or no way.

Love is open minded and hate is close minded. Hate is defensive and love isn't.

Notice whether or not they even hear your side of the story and tries to understand it to determine whether or not hate is involved.

Answer 9

hey, I just read that same thing, and I agree with you on this....some people really can't stay on the point in focus. That "hating" response sounded very juvenile to me. Of course we can disagree and not be "hating".

Answer 10

nobody loves me everybody hates me , I think I'll go eat worms

many people think that disagreeing on a matter means you dont like them or what they believe or stand for
it is silly
because without disagreeing we would not progress as a race