will i ever be in a stable relationship with the man I've spent the last ten yrs with, is there hope?

Question

Ive began to lose hope lately, i catch him lying about unimportant things, and he gets angry when i ask him too many questions.i still love him but the love is fading faster than the good times. I used to want to marry him but i truely dont know if he asked i might say NO! because he feels like hes not sincere, and faking it too much, in EVERYTHING..Im confused and.desperate to find happiness and peace in my heart.

Answer 1

It sounds like your relationship is winding down. It's going to
be hard to pull away, since you've invested so much time in
each other. But if he's lying, for any reason, and you notice it's
becoming a ritual or too commonplace, there is no room in
your life for someone like that. You want a mate you can trust
and be a companion in all ways. Someone who will be there to support you and love you and treat you special. And it
sounds like he's bored and it's just a matter of time, before
he finds a good way to back out of the relationship. So don't
be the dumpee, be the dumper. Tell him it's just not working.
If he intended on marrying you, or loved you, he'd have done
it by now. How long does it take to get to know someone or
to know that they made the wrong committment. I'd say you
are overdue for a new guy in your life. He sounds like he's
miserable, and he's making you the same. Life is way too
short to stay as a couple, because it's convenient. Hopefully
you work and can support yourself. So find a place for just
you and make the break. You owe it to yourself before you
are both too old to care, and that would be a sentence you
wouldn't want to endure for the rest of your lives. You'd grow
to hate him, and he'd hate you. So make the break.

Answer 2

Does he know how you feel? Likewise do you know how he feels? In just about every relationship there are two stories and then what really happens. Doesn't mean that one is right or wrong just the perspective of our views. The key is learning the others view.

You should talk with him. 10 days or 10 years - love is a very rare thing to let go of. If you are finding it hard to communicate, try talking about doing something that you haven't in awhile. You might find something that you both miss.

Either way you should express your feelings and your perspective. No one has everything figured out and no one ever will. The key to showing the value in love is learning.

I wish you the best. Love is truly something that should never go to waste.

Answer 3

The funny thing is that Buzz Lightyear is apparently ignorant of the percentage of the US government expenditures on ALL foreign aid. It is 1.2%. i.e. Just for Israel alone, it is less than 1%. Yet, when it comes to Libya, since it costs 1% of Iraq, he thinks that is a good deal. In other words, he doesn't care about "how much money" was actually spent, all he cares about is if he agrees with the expenditure. (For the record, if Qadaffi is replaced by someone better than him, then I'd agree that it was worthwhile. However, that still remains to be seen.)

Answer 4

usually if u haven't married within the first 2 years, it's not going to happen. i hate to tell u this, but why should he marry u? he has all the benefits and none of the drawbacks. i learned after a few mistakes like that, never live with a guy. always leave him wanting more. don't be available all the time. guess what? i got married. move out. and give him a timeline on a marriage. then dump him if he doesn't follow thru. never spend another night with him until after the wedding. men want what they can't have. they need a chase.
best wishes. it's not completely hopeless, u just need to shake it up a bit and MEAN IT!

Answer 5

Ten years is a long time..he should have married you a long time ago..You should be able to tell him anything on your mind, because you was together that long. If marriage wasn't the issue three years into your relationship, then you can forget that ideal..You need some time apart so you can both stop waisting time. Find out what you need to do for you, before you waist any more time in your precious life.

Answer 6

girl, ur mind n body is already tellin u wut to do. You know what to do, you know what the deal is. You're losing hope for a reason. It's hard to walk away after SO long, but you have to look at what really matters, and that's you. Voice your concerns, let him know what the consequences will be if he doesn't change and be more loving towards you, and stick to it. If in like 3-4 wks (or even less) he doesn't change.... be strong and do what you gotta do ma. leave. Simple as that. Don't allow urself to be used and abused like a piece of trash, cuz it sounds like that's what's happening or about to be happening! Stay strong. :)

Answer 7

I have learned you follow what that little voice is telling you.I dont know what hes lying about but if it is bad then I would tell him you feel like its not working for you.Dont go any longer without peace and happiness in your heart.(You need to watch the movie fried green tomatoes.It has some sad moments but It will make you feel powerful.)Good luck:)

Answer 8

well if you have doubts about the relationship for heavens sake DONT get married......im not saying breakup neccesarily but confront him...because if he isnt going to respect you enough to tell the truth then the realtionship is just wasting your time...

but on another note..if your trying to find happiness in a relationship your not going too...you must first be happy alone before you can be truly happy in a relationship...so think about what i said..

Answer 9

You have just wasted part of your life. There is always good in any relationship, but if you have been with him for 10 years and are not married yet, you won't. Remember the good, but start looking for better. When the lies start, the love dies.

Answer 10

Seek help, try some cuncelling, you've had a long relationship together & it sounds like you want to save this.

Either that, or get yourselves on the Jeremy Kyle show lol