Me and my cousin are really close friends she’s almost like my sister. We are 2 1/2 years apart I'm 17 and she will be 15 soon. It seems like we are drifting from each other now that I am in college and she is a freshman in high school. She try’s to act like something she isn’t and she is so desperate for love and to have a baby. I ask her to hang out and she ditches me for her only friend and then ditches my brothers birthday party because she just wanted to stay home which she does all the time. My uncle has been depressed for 7 years making my cousin like that. She never listens to anything I talk about or my problems but then she expects me to listen to hers. I am going CRAZY with her. Should I send her an e-mail we haven’t talked in days. I am so tired of only me holding are friendship together.
2007-09-11 13:22:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell her how you are feeling.... it may sound weird but me and my BEST FRIEND have this time where we sit and talk about stuff that bothers us about each other. Yea sometimes this stuff may be hurtful but to get it out there and try to fix the problem is going to work!
2007-09-11 13:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin has some serious issues. She needs to find counseling. Give her space. She will come around one day after she gets the help she need. By the way, a baby is the LAST thing she needs!
2007-09-11 20:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by sonyvet2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her parent what she told you so they can try to save her from herself. Be cordial with her, but don't listen to the chaos. Tell her that you don't want the chaos in your life anymore, that you love her, but she needs to settle down in her life and mature a little bit because she is driving you away otherwise. Be honest and lovingly firm. Draw the boundaries for her and be a good role model for her.
2007-09-11 21:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your cousin has some problems, are you up for the task of helping her through them? Trust me, family is very important, sometimes it is all we have.
2007-09-11 20:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by pacdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...well im going tru da SAME thing. me n my 2 bestfriends are startin to drift away from each other too since high skool started (we freshman).. so here's HOW I deal wit it.. I jus let them hav der own space. n I think u shud too.. everybody change startin high skool, so I think u shud jus tryna bak off for a while n let her do her own thing, but chek in it her often n see how it is. n SERIOUSLY CONSIDER talkin her out of havin a BABY!! wel i helped u out wit urs. help me wit mine? danks lots!
2007-09-11 20:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by Toki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry your probably suffocating her let her be and soon enough yall be back to good friends in no time shes probably trying to work out personal problems
2007-09-11 20:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your entire family could use some professional help
2007-09-11 20:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that it is time for you to move on. you will always be family, but you need " your space." And leave it at that.
2007-09-11 20:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonflygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your school counsellor
2007-09-11 20:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋