so we let them live in our house (their parents) and we make them pay rent. we are doing this to help them learn how to take care of themselfs. both of the boys work full time and are saving money to get their own place but just have not made it yet. they work well with the money they make and are good children and work around the house.
the question is how long should i let them stay or am i a bad mom for charging them rent and not just let them save all the money to get out on their own. but remember before u answer any child has to be feed and kept cool or warm, a roof over the head and this all cost me money if i dont make them pay rent so what u think.
2007-09-11 12:59:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They're out and working.
You're right in having them pay their way.
If they're really good kids, let em stay until
they're ready to go. (Steady girl-friends
generally are the motivation.)
2007-09-11 14:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are doing what alot of parents wouldn't. Which is letting your grown sons live at home, and they have children. You making them pay rent isn't a bad thing. You are teaching them responsibility, and you shouldn't have to pay for everything either with there being 2 extra people in your house. But you could maybe lower the rent price just so they can save more money every month to eventually be able to move out and make it on their own. Every parent should be there for their child, but remember it does always come a time when you can't do everything for them.
2007-09-11 13:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by liltkg007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's only right that they pay something towards their room & board. But it sounds like they are good kids that help around the house. If you can afford it, maybe you can set aside the money that they are paying you, and give it to them when they move out. When I was trying to move out on my own, my mom didn't charge me rent, but she did expect me to help out around the house, and at least pitch in for groceries etc.
2007-09-11 13:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Mom, I don't see a problem with them paying rent or staying with you but I do think that there should be a deadline or time limit set. As parents we really want to encourage them to leave the nest. After all that is what we've been preparing them for. CONGRATULATIONS!
2007-09-11 13:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm only 14 but my sister is 19 she still lives with our mom she does not pay rent or anything! but she is so irresposible and immature, so i think you making your son pay rent will make him more responsible, plus you have been taking care of him his whole life why can't he help you out?
2007-09-11 13:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋