i am the kind of girl that has ALL guy friends and very little girlfriends but my boyfriend has gotten rid of all of my guyfriend one by one in a whole year! and now all of my friends hate me and him and i'm not allowed to talk to guys unless my bf knows them and "trusts" them...how long is this going to last!?!? bc we made ayear yesterday.
2007-09-11 12:58:33 · 22 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is isolating you from everyone. Thats one of the first signs of an abuser. It appears he thinks he owns you as if your his slave. I bet he would never allow you to do those things to him.
You need to break up with him, he is a control freak and will make your life miserable. He is suppose to love you, not cut you off from the world.
2007-09-11 13:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For your anniversary you need to dump his a55. Seriously.
There are many men out there who are completely controlling, insecure, and try and treat their girlfriends like a little slave/child.
The future with this man is marriage, with him dictating your every move, when you can go out, who you can go out with, what you can do, what you can buy, what you can wear. Now if you want this kind of doormat/submissive relationship, then fine. But if you'd like some equality then forget it.
It is very rare that this kind of man becomes more trusting as time goes on, in fact it is likely he will become more controlling. Once he has kicked the men friends out of your life, he will probably start on the women he thinks are a 'bad influence.'
Personally, I would never accept any relationship where I was not an equal partner.
2007-09-11 20:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from your first sentence these types of guys straight away.
He sounds like someone who wants to mould you to his liking, kind of controlling, so that it's like "i'm the guy, your the girl" kinda thing, it's not right & it's wrong & I believe this is whats happening here.
I think your going to be in a very controlling relationship here as when things get bad or if you refuse to do things the way he likes, aggression & even violence can kick in.
Either way, this relationship is not going to be a healthy one.
Jealousy, on this level is one of the worst things in a relationship.
2007-09-11 20:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's just wow. As much as you may love him, if the boy pushes away all the friends that you have, he isn't the right one for you. Tell him calmly that your friends are your friends and if he has a problem with them, than he has a problem with you. If he's scared that you will cheat on him, well, tell him that you are totally loyal and would never do something like that. He should believe you. If he doesn't than he isn't the right guy.
2007-09-11 20:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bloo Elle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with him. He has no right to take over your life and forbid you to see your friends. That's rude and shows that he has absolutely no trust in you. Ask him why he doesn't trust you. If he does, but doesn't trust your friends, let him know that you'd never do anything with any of them because you care about him. Good luck!
2007-09-11 20:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long are you going to LET it last - that's the REAL question! I can't believe you let some overly-jealous boyfriend destroy ALL of your friendships. You need to DUMP this loser and get back your old friends FAST! I hate to put the blame on you, but you could have put a stop to his actions at any point but you just let it carry on. You need to get yourself out of this mess - quickly! Best of luck.
2007-09-11 20:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Omg!!! same with me, but I dumped him I think after 8 months, If he saw me talking to a guy he'd flip out and say i ruined his life! If you don't think it's worth it, dump him! Me and my boyfriend got back together like 30 times (literally, everyone on the grade knew us as the couple that breaks up every day) and then I jsust dumped him and I have no problem, I like other guys and I go on dates and things like that
2007-09-11 20:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Fwflovee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the rest of your life. He is controlling, obsessed, and he doesn,t trust you. He got rid of your guy friends because he feels that the only reason guys hang around girls is because they want sex. I'm sure by now he has already told you that.
2007-09-11 20:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Bull 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like the guy dump him. What are you waiting for? Why are you allowing some guy to rule your life? That's such a loser mentality. No wonder so many girls get played these days.
2007-09-11 20:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married that man...he is the same way and now he is taking away what little girlfriends i have...it only gets worse...now our marriage is diminishing and it is pretty much over. Dont make the same mistake i did...get rid of it.
2007-09-11 20:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by mandy m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋