Here is the thing she works and does pay 100 dollars a month in rent, but she goes out drinking and stays gone all night and also goes and spends the weekend with her male friend. Now I have a 15 year old daughter at home as well and I thought that no matter how old you were that the rules still applied??? It really really bothers me that she is staying out all night and spending the nights with her boyfriend while living in my home. Tell me how I go about telling her that if she is going to live here she can not do those things?
2007-09-11 11:03:59 · 9 answers · asked by Sheila C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
SOME of the rules should still apply but you need to remember she is an adult now. If you don't like it then you need to tell her to move out..
2007-09-11 11:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that her life is her own.
Tell her that you want to support her in becoming an independent adult. Since, in your house, she must follow your rules, and she doesn't like or comply with them, you will help her find someplace else to live. She has 30 days' notice. You will bring her the newspaper with the rental ads every day. You will do what you reasonably can to help her find a place.
Tell her that when she is supporting herself in her own place, she won't have to be so worried about upsetting you or giving a bad example to her little sister. (If she moves in with her boyfriend, so what? Nothing has changed except that you don't have to see it.)
If she does not leave on time, place her belongings outside and have your locks changed. She will not freeze and she will not starve. She will figure something out.
Be sure to invite her to dinner once a week as long as she is civil. You are her parents and you love her.
2007-09-11 12:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you want her to enjoy life and the best way to do it is to have her own place. Tell her that with the rules you have placed for your home it just won't suit this girls lifestyle. You don't want to hamper her life and that's why you are telling her this. And don't forget to add that the rent is raised to $300 to 500 month (depending on what you want). Sometimes sarcasm is the best policy. After she has dropped her mouth at the increase in rent - tell her honestly about how you feel and have an adult conversation with her. Good luck with everything!!!
2007-09-11 11:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is 22. It's only normal for her. You probably should reccomend that she gets her own place. Another great idea is that she should move in with a roommate, like her boyfriend.
When you feel it is time to tell her make sure she understands you. Tell her your rules and if she cannot apply herself to them tell her to move out. Sometimes you have to be harsh to get someone's attention.
2007-09-11 11:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by astrolame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is an adult. While you may not agree with everything she does, you agreed for her to move back and she is paying rent. I dont think you have the right to tell her how to live her life and what she can or cannot do anymore.
Either get over it or kick her out. And dont feel bad if you kick her out. She is an adult and you shouldnt have to support her if she can support herself.
2007-09-11 11:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 23:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should explain to her how it look to her sister when she is out doing all this. If she is an adult she should be able to have the conversation. So as long as she wants to live there she must follow rules.
2007-09-11 11:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by DJ_<3_JI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to tell them just that. There are rules and she must follow them. Thell her that the oter sibling is there and watching what she does. If they can't follow the rules, then they must move out.
2007-09-11 11:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one hundred dollars a month??? can i move in too??? shes getting off way to cheap. maybe per week one hundrfed is good.
2007-09-11 12:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋