What should I do in this tricky situation in a long distance relationship?

Question

My girlfriend lives a 1000 miles away and she has been hanging out alone and smoking pot with this other guy. She tells me that they are just friends and I trust her, but I can't help being extremely jeolous and bitter about the whole situation. The more I think about it, the more frustrated I get. I love her sooooooo much. I've told her how I feel and she just reassures me that it is fine. I don't want to shound like a over-protective jerk, but I think that I should be her number one and not Brandon.

Answer 1

Such is love, but lets be realistic her you've got a nice little choice in front of you. On one hand you accept the fact that she IS what you think she is, which I'm willing to venture, the love of your life. On the OTHER hand you accept that you don't know this love of your life and she can be up to anything at this point. That choice is up to you, I've been there, done that, and I've came to that conclusion that ether you can trust them or not, and if you can't trust her, 1000 miles isn't going to help, and besides that it specks VOLUMES about the depth of that love before hand, namly you lossing it not just for her but yourself. Its hard I know, but understand to, that ether you've got unconditional love of her, or you have selfish romantic love for her, which ever way you slice it, act accordly. Just realize with unconditional IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO SHE SLEEPS WITH!!! with romantic love, she is YOUR pesession, so be as selfish and broke about what happens as you can stand, o wait..... sorry buddy, such is love.... a little bit of honest on your part might help. Drop those balls and tell her, hey I think this distance is going to leave us both depressed so I just can't grasp the idea that YOU can make it without finding someone else to help you not feel depressed. See thats what unconditional love could give you. Now romantic love tends to go like this, man I love you so much, your not screwing anyone else are you? See how it works.... so just be honest, so what if she is? Does that make YOU any less of a man? Does that mean she loves you so much less? I mean she wasn't going to run to your door and marry you before, whats some other guy going to do? Let go, its a test, a life test, not hers to you, but lifes little test. If she really does respect the love she has for you NO WORRIES! YEA! If she doesn't, then it doesn't matter, nothing to fight for anymore.... so relax! You know her more then me and chances are this is simply coming down to those deep seated insecurities that we ALL have! WE DO! REALLY! Even a pimp relationship person like me gets it, its how we deal with it that makes us "MAN"! or "boys" :-( sorry relationships inorder to work require some HARD TO THE CORE emotional skills, so get to using them!!