...a man or woman who had lost an eye, arm, or leg compliments of "Bush's War" in Iraq, and you had no idea of their disability until AFTER you had bedded them,
WOULD you "BREAK IT OFF" with them???
(You might argue that THIS type of question has no place in "R&S"; I disagree. It has EVERYTHING to do with your "Spiritual" feelings.)
Lady Kikyo
2007-09-11 09:55:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you've got to ask that person why they didn't tell you about there disability,maybe they thought it would scare you away.the question is actually to yourself ,do you both love each other?and can you live the rest of your life with his /her disability.i know if i wanted to spend the rest of my like with somebody that no matter what happened I'd take care of that person,for better or worse.do you trust that person or are they a lire?
2007-09-11 10:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by myself sheri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on the person and what type of relationship you hope to gain from it. If you think they might be your true love, then you should be able to push past or overlook the disability. "Never judge a book by its cover," how many times has this been said concerning relationships. When time and aging take effect in people, they will understand that now matter how hard they try to deny it, the body or shell will always change, it will sag, get wrinkles, it will start to hurt then you move, and all of that. The only thing that will remain unaltered by time would be their soul, who they are on the inside. When that time comes you will know true love.
2007-09-11 10:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by John H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A. I would not be "bedding" people I don't know that well. I want an intimate knowledge of their personality before I get an intimate knowledge of their body.
B. If the person had not been honest with me about their disability before that (and it wasn't obvious from looking at them) and they got me into bed, then I would break it off not because of the disability itself, but because of the fact that they didn't trust me enough to tell me.
It has nothing to do with my spiritual feelings - it's how I am in relatioships. Trust first, always.
2007-09-11 10:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you copy/pasted this from R&S because you posted it in S&D.
I'd have to say prosthetics must've come a LONG way if a false eye, arm, or leg isn't apparent until you're getting naked with someone and they remove it...I can't see how someone wouldn't figure it out prior to "bedding" that person.
Would I break it off, because they had a fake eye or limb? I can't see why that would be a deal breaker by itself...but then I've not been in that position either.
2007-09-11 09:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you felt about that person in the first place. I certainly wouldn't break up with someone simply because of a disability. Especially if I cared about them.
2007-09-11 10:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question you have to ask yourself.. Does apperance really matter that he has all his body part? I always' ask that question to my self. Would it matter if they were blind or handicap.. Do you really love the person or is it just infactuation... I know alot of shallow people out there and just because of appearance they are treated differently.. It just depends if your ready for that. And it should not matter what other people think it's what you feel inside for the person.
2007-09-11 10:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Midori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i would take the time to notice everything about a man before i jump into bed with him, especially if he was missing an arm or something...its impossible not to notice. but saying it did happen, it would not change the way i feel about him
2007-09-11 10:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by prplfae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like you are falling in live with them, then it shouldnt matter. just a question, how could you not notice they had lost an arm, leg or eye untill after you slept with them?
2007-09-11 10:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't if your love is strong enough to make you hold on.
Love is like a roll of tape, and people are like paper.
The tape sticks two pieces of paper together, but if the tape is not strong enough, it breaks off.
2007-09-11 09:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one should not love another for their body but rather for their heart and mind, and simply who they are as a person. So it's a no for me. If you truly love 'em then stay with 'em and help them get through their problems.
2007-09-11 09:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋