I have a 12 year old daughter. When I do her laundry, I notice that her underwear is always soiled with urine. I have talked to her NUMEROUS times about keeping herself clean "down there," and making sure she knows where to wipe, but she doesn't seem to understand the concept. I don't think she understands where it comes out. (I'm not sure how this could be). She has not started puberty yet, but I am concerned about when it does happen. She does not have any mental problems. Is it normal for a kid her age to be this way? Does she just not care, or is it spite?
2007-09-11 09:50:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I was like that at 12. I was just a kid still. I didn't care about my underwear looking pretty, no one saw it. Until one day I was changing in gym and my underwear fell and I realized... yeah gross. Now I toss anything that gets stained. She will eventually grow into hygiene.
I wasn't really interested in dating until I was like 15... And I wore makeup at 16. Maybe she's a late bloomer. Be grateful lol
2007-09-11 10:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sambal Oelek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has not ever been sexually abused. This is common when a child has been abused by making themselves "stink" down there so that they are not perpatrated against. If this isn't so, then get a bucket of vinegar and water and make her scrub out the ick on her own. Put the bucket outside or in the tub and don't make it a punishment but just calmly say she is old enough to clean off her underware herself. This may cure the problem.
2007-09-15 15:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when I was 12 I wanted nothing but being clean because if I went to school dirty, my peers would prbly make fun of me behind my back. When my brother was 12 he didn't care. Even when he was like, 14 my mom still had to get him to brush his teeth and stuff. It could be tht your daughter doesn't care or doesn't think anything will happen if she doesn't wipe. Or mabey somthing is making her pee in her pants, like not wanting to go to the bathroom. Sit down with her and try to find out the real reason.
2007-09-11 17:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? This little girl is 12. I'm sure her body is going through alot of changes, she needs a mother to guide and advise. The next couple of years are going to be trying, so make friends now, let her know if there is anything wrong she will be able to confide in you. Don't worry about cleanliness, one look from a boy and you won't be able to get her out of the bathroom
2007-09-11 18:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by dolly c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am with you. My daughter is 5 and she will not for the life of herself wipe when she poops. She gets nasty poo stains on her underwear. She wipes when she pee's but not the other. Its gross.
If I come up with a solution for you I email you, because right now I just can't seem to get through to her.
2007-09-11 17:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is with girls these days? lol My 11 year old does not wipe either. I have been on her case since she was old enough to do it herself and it is still an issue. Quite honestly I am hoping that having to dress down for PE will get her thinking of it.
2007-09-11 17:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls just don't seem to care about that kind of thing until they start dating, so hopefully that will be a long ways off. Make her wash her own laundry and maybe she will be more careful. She is old enough to learn.
2007-09-11 17:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's normal, but I don't think she has a mental problem or you would've known a long time ago.I think I started to actually want to get in the shower somewhere around age 13 and since your daughter's a girl, she'll probably start soon.
2007-09-11 17:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Fox 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it may be a little of both but kids all are different if she is a tomboy it may be harder for her to take the time to be clean but she is 12 that's old enough for her to understand how important it is talk to her about the number of infections she could get gross her out maybe that would prove to her how gross that is
2007-09-11 16:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by itsagirl!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry so much about it........ yes, it's a laundry night mare, but once she reaches puberty, and all those girly hormones start to kick in........... she should come out of this phase........ and she will start becoming aware of 'things'..... hehehehe
good luck
2007-09-13 19:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋