Hi, I am 24 and there is this guy at work, he comes once every two weeks to our office and so far we've seen each other maybe two or three times. I smile, he smiles, we've talked for a little bit here and there about non-imortant things...but even though he seems like a very shy guy, whenever I smile, he always seems to return his smile in a flirty way.
How can I find out, without making it seem too obvious of course, if he is single?
And if he is single, would it be okay for me to give him my number?
Any guys out there who would have an opinion on this topic please let me know. How would you feel if a girl would ask if you were single out of the blue, and offer her number to you?
Thanks.
2007-09-11 09:34:33 · 21 answers · asked by Leila 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask. You can try to be coy, but that could lead to further confusion and games. Which would be bad...
2007-09-11 09:40:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a little premature, if you haven't talked very much. Your girlfriend is a lucky woman to have a man with such a good sense of humor etc., If he isn't in a relationship and is interested, he will take this opportunity to let you know he is single and available.
On the other hand, I am just a very up front out going person. It is always a risk but I'd just ask him if he wanted to go out sometime. The worst he can say is no. It may make it awkward at work later, when you have to see him though. It just depends how comfortable you are with yourself.
2007-09-11 09:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem being asked if I was single, but considering this guy may be pretty shy you may be better off asking if he'd like to go out for a drink sometime or something.
If that goes well, then give him your number.
Giving him your phone number means he has to take action... He may be too shy for that or feel uncomfortable following up on your forwardness.
Also, he may be some kind of social freak and having your number may blow up in your face... The chances are low, but why not be safe rather than sorry?
2007-09-11 09:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Crypt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can always go with the bold approach - just ask him.
But, just to play it safe, next time he comes into your office and you are talking with him bring up the topic that you are single...something along the lines of how you are a little jealous of your friend who just got a new BF and you wish you could too...something like that. Once the topic is out there, especially if he comments on it, you are free to bring up if he has a gf.
2007-09-11 09:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tease him a little and ask in a cute way if he is single. If he says no say she is a very lucky girl and walk away with a bright smile. If he is single then ask him if he would like to go for a drink sometime.
2007-09-11 09:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him what his wife's opinion is regarding something innocuous, a certain type of flower, something like that. If he does not have a wife, he would say I don't have a wife. You could maybe ask him for coffee, nothing to forward and see if he responds positively. If he is involved, I would imagine he would say so at that time. I am female and would have no problem asking a guy out for something fairly safe and tame, like coffee.
2007-09-11 09:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Don Drapers woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put some of your friend follow after him after work a couple of times, for example. then youll know if he is or is not single
If I were single, and if I was aproached like that it would feel better than a new years eve ;) so go ahead if you are into it yourself too. Why make simple things complicate
2007-09-11 09:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him whether or not he's married or has a girlfriend. It's really that simple.
ESPECIALLY if he seems shy, DEFINITELY make the move.
Trust me, shy guys like it when women show interest, and are a little aggressive. Shy guys usually prefer that women come to them.
2007-09-11 09:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by SoulDawg 4 UGA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act grown up and ask!! Simple.and if you both single give him your number it's OK to meet and date just be safe. Go for it girl, Don't be shy!!
2007-09-11 09:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by mamachula01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a girly item.
Then tell him that you received it as a gift.
But you don't need it because you already have one.
Then ask him, "hey, why don't you just give this to your girlfriend?"
Naturally, he would respond by saying either "no I don't have a girlfriend" or "oh thanks she would love this."
If he's single, it's totally okay to give him your number. He wouldn't mind, I'm sure.
2007-09-11 09:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by 123mantobeat456 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋