My guy & I have been together for 6 months & the other day he told me that this woman he dated briefly called him with an attitude because she saw pictures of us online together. When they last saw each other he said he told her really didnt have time for a relationship but he actually wasnt interested in having a relationship. So she send me some nasty emails about them being together last night and some other childish mess which I ignored because I know she is lying and upset. Any way today I was on his page and saw a new friend so I called him and asked him about it, well I forgot that he didnt have his computer . I wasnt upset I was calm and he explained that he didnt know because his lap top was still being repaired so I asked if it was possible that someone had his password and then I realized I could be mistaken. So later he wants to talk about it and said he doesnt understand why I have to spy on him. Its a public website so how am I spying? Guys especially what do you think?
2007-09-11 09:02:05 · 29 answers · asked by ms_sweet_real 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe I wasnt clear new FEMALE Friends are what he has and they have very revealing explicit pages one named...ur man loves me ..that type of stuff looks bad.
2007-09-11 09:09:01 · update #1
keeping track of how many "friends" he has online is a waste of your time and will only drive you nuts. does it really matter how many on-line friends he has? it doesn't effect your relationship either way. now the other issue is if he's using on-line to actually meet other women...regardless if it's on-line or not-that's cheating.
cheating is not necessarly the ACT of doing something physical with someone else but rather not being honest about a relationship and being deceptive with the people involved.
now you can't live your life looking for signs of possible cheating so I say live your life and as long as you are happy and the relationship is healthy then don't go out of your way looking for things (aka spying). the truth will always come out...so if he's up to something you will find out eventually
2007-09-11 09:16:29 · answer #1 · answered by alison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I must say that I think you might be overreacting... It is just an "on-line" friends list... Do you really care how many people pop up on that thing? And why? Is he going out and meeting these people? And if it is MySpace, than is it VERY possible that someone else has his password. Or it could have been something he sent out months ago as a request and they have just approved it. Is he not allowed to be friends with any ladies now because he has a girlfriend? Do you have guy friends?
Or it could be this (ex) chick playing around, obviously she realizes that she can get to you and piss you off quite easily...
Don't flip out on your man until you know all details. It might be a public website, but you are obviously checking up on every little move he makes on this website if you're paying that much attention to his friends list. Therefore you are spying and not trusting your guy. That is not a very health sign 6 months into your relationship...
2007-09-11 09:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind of website it is. if its a dating website, i would be mad. If its a myspace type website, then whats the big deal? Those sites are made for networking. I have like 100 friends on mine. I actually talk to about 3 of them. I would say you are reading too much into it. Unless he is activley acting in a suspicious manner, i wouldn't worry about it.
2007-09-11 09:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by writenimage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there's nothing wrong with him having new friends...
i don't understand why would you keep him away from that.. the only person you should keep him away from is his ex.
now that's a problem...Most girls get upset that their bf has a new friend.. most girls assume their bf is cheating on them.. <.<
and the girls that think that are the ones who love having new friends for themself but not letting their bf have any :(
some guys are like that to with their gf... (sigh) not right..
so my advice for you is to trust him.. you don't have proof that he's cheating on you.... just keep him away from his Ex.. that can become a problem.. a 50% out of 100% problem...
it will hurt the both of you.. if His ex is sending nasty comments to you... block her..you don't need crap from Her....
she's either lying to you or telling the truth.. but it's your choice.. to believe her or not...
alot of people stereotype men as cheaters, players, dogs, sexual predetor...
not all guys are like that.........
Even Girls are cheaters, players, dogs, sexual predetors..
and not all girls are like that too...
and yes you were spying on him. it's not right..
but if you feel like he's cheating on you or doing something wrong.. it's good to have access to his account and see what's up i think...
cause it's better to know now, then live a lie with your bf... amen.
2007-09-11 09:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Justin Kalkimer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't spying since it's a public website...however it does make you appear untrusting and/or jealous if every time there's a change to his friends page (that includes a female) you quiz him about it.
2007-09-11 09:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see both points here. First, he probably is chatting to chics online or he wouldn't be so secretive about it. Second, I would also feel a bit uncomfortable if my girlfriend were looking through my website for reasons to distrust me. You can always take things out of context, so leave the website alone, and if you think he's cheating, then he probably is.
2007-09-11 09:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's not allowed to have friends if he's in a relationship with you? Keep up that attitude and you wont have to worry about his ex because you'll be one too. Unless he's buddy buddy with his ex that still wants him, I dont see why him having online friends is a big deal.
2007-09-11 09:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he has a new friend on his online account. Alert the swat team! Lame, get over it, if your relationship falls apart over myspace or facebook or whatever, it wasn't much in the first place.
2007-09-11 09:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His lab top is not the only computer he can get in touch with...something's up and the whole on line thing thing like myspace and etc can mess up a relationship if you have no trust
2007-09-11 09:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
EXACTLY!!!...make up a fke profile, put up a pic of another person & say something like "hey, we went to H.S together how u been sexy, remember me????
then eventually after like 5-10 emails ask him "do u have a girlfriend, we should meet up sometime, i think you'r sooo hot"....
DO this & see what he sends back...Then , you'll catch him if he is messin round ;-)
2007-09-11 09:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋