Me and my live in girlfriend are down to having sex only 2-3 times amonth. Is that grounds to breakup with her
We just moved in together inApril. we had sex muxh more frequentlt before. Between her headaches and other incidental things that do not allow us to be intimate more often we are down to 2-3 time s month. She refuses to give me hand release because she thinks it is disgusting. And oral is fleeting and never to completion. We get along Ok otherwise but I have had much better relationships. I have voiced my concern several times but to no avail. Is this grounds to break up with her?
2007-09-11 08:30:35 · 11 answers · asked by bob l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bob, nobody can answer that but you.
Yes, you'd like more sex, and hand jobs, and oral. We understand your wants.
You don't tell us her wants. They matter, too, as much as yours do.
If you and she can't sit down and discuss this like adults trying to seek a satisfactory compromise to differing wants, *that*'s reason enough to break up--not the lack of sex, but the inability to communicate and lack of caring on both your parts.
2007-09-11 08:36:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All great relationships are 50/50 - physical and emotional. If the physical is already in a downward spiral, then the initial sexual tension / chemistry was probably due to the fact that it was new and fresh - a novelty of sorts.
It takes a lot of effort to keep sexual chemistry fresh and exciting as time goes on. I went through a similar situation with my ex of 2 years. Great sex life the first 6 months, then it started to diminish rapidly. Ultimately, it sounds like you 2 are simply not compatible with your sexual wants and needs.
If the recent dry-spell in sexual intimacy has any chance of being a by-product of stress at work, in the family, loss of a loved one, or anything else that may have had an adverse affect on her, be patient and get to the root of her problem. Be there for her, be supportive, be her open ear that listens to her problems, but also be honest with yourself and with her about your sexual needs. The more open and honest you can be with her, the better.
Be well and take care.
2007-09-11 08:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very much like you are not happy in this relationship at all. The very fact you said "we get along ok otherwise..." tells me you havn't quite caught the 'love bug'! If this was the real thing you would be happy to talk about why she doesn't want sex with you. Could she have had a bad experience with anothr live in lover? Or are you too selfish in the bedroom (don't worry - many men are)?
If you want to perservere in this relationship then you need to ask in a loving way whats wrong. If you can't see yourself together in 5 years time, then end it now. It will only get harder as time goes on. Good luck!
2007-09-11 08:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, have you ever considered that maybe you aren't doing the things you used to do before you moved in with her. Are you still doing the things she likes, massages, romantic dates, grooming yourself properly. Is she so tired from picking up after your messes all day long that she has nothing left to give to you physically? I think you should try to evaluate this. Also you shouldn't pressure her to have sex with you too much or she'll start feeling like it doesn't mean anything to you anymore.
Something has changed and it may not all be her fault.
2007-09-11 08:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will disagree with me but I think sexual compatibility is very important. If you are both not satisfied you will get desires to go elsewhere to have those needs met and that would be a very very bad thing. I feel that if you can't keep each other satisfied then you should not be with each other.
2007-09-11 08:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to break up with her?
Cuz it looks like you're looking for an excuse to dump her.
If you really want to fix it, take her for a date like you used when you were dating(thats if yuou did) dinner, movie, hotel room, get out of the ordinary. Talk to her about not as if your mad but as you're concerned for her.
Have patience
2007-09-11 08:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by HEIDY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. that would get you classified as an A CLASS JERK. but, if you relationship is only abt sex then and you dont really love her than you should have never asked her out in the first place.
2007-09-11 08:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Blackcashews 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you don't know your own mind, what your priorities are in a relationship, her value other than as a sexual partner are all perfectly good reasons for HER to ditch YOU - the other way around, i don't know.
2007-09-11 08:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 09:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just a horny lil pervert who only cares about sex
2007-09-11 08:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋