he just left me,ignored my phone calls wondering wat went wrong with him n if i ever did anything wrong to him....but he never called me back and he never told me why.
he called me after 3 months lost of contact with him
he told me that the reason he neva contacted me was bcoz he was cheatting on me n he didnt know how he would tell me n he thought if he told me why i would break up with him.......which i would.....but he says he stil luvs me as much as he always did.
i met this wonderful guy four weeks ago n i already went four dates with him....but im stil in luv with my ex who already made me suffer enought!!!!....... he was my fiance at the same time the one the only man i trully luved.......i still didnt decide to give him achance cuz he doesnt deserve one..
i would really appreciate your ideas
tell me wat i should do please??
thank you
2007-09-11 07:11:59 · 11 answers · asked by Sahro A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you truly love him, you'll forgive him for the suffering he caused you. and second chances are always nice, even if (perhaps especially if) they aren't deserved.
on the flip side, if he cheated on you when you were engaged, he may not be the kind of guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. make him earn back your trust, which he will take the time to do if he really loves you.
i can't tell you what to do exactly. i can only offer those pointers. i do know that i would take my ex-girlfriend back in a heartbeat (but that's a slightly different situation because i wasn't cheating). good luck to you. i really hope things work out for you.
2007-09-11 07:23:08 · answer #1 · answered by Darcy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave the ex alone. You got your closure and the reason why he left, just leave it at that. If he really loved you, it will never enter his mind to cheat or hurt you in any way. And I know how it feels when someone 'disappears' out of your life, as I experience this with an ex. Not someone you want to take back since they are a coward and not dependable.
You had recently met a good guy so please don't mess it up by going back to your two-timing ex boyfriend. Because if you do, chances are he will cheat again--besides he probably is back if things didn't work out with the other girl. So if I were you, I wouldn't trust him for nothing.
2007-09-12 14:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by ranay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the dud. He doesn't deserve your time or energy, he had his chance and blew it by cheating on you. He is desperate now because his new girl that he cheated on you with didn't work out and he doesn't want to be alone - he's lonely. Need i say more - if you go back to him, there is a 98% chance he's going to cheat again and you'll be left dealing with the hurt. The choice is yours but if i were you, i would move on to this new and wonderful guy and forget about the one who hurt you!
Good Luck!
2007-09-11 12:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Recently, I read a very interesting article on Yahoo! Dating and it said that if more women/men started treating their potential mates like job interviewees then you would save yourself alot of time and heartbreak. So now I pose this question to you...
If this "ex" was a former employee and the reason being was job abandonment. Would you rehire someone like that to be apart of your extraordinary company? Someone who is unreliable, doesn't respect you or your time and couldn't even give you a notice? If yes, go for it. If no, move on with your cutie :)
2007-09-11 07:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by MockingBird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Kate M. Move on girl if he really loved you like he said he would've not cheated on you. he disrespected you and he didnt care. Now i know its up to you but kick him to the curve and start enjoying your time with the new guy.
best of luck!
-Tina
2007-09-11 07:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go back to him! it sounds like he got tired of his this new girl that he cheated on you with and now he wants you back. i say you stay with the guy that you are dating and tell your ex that he had his chance and messed up and that you dont want to get hurt again. its going to me tough becaus eyou still love him. so my suggestion to that is try spending more time with your new guy but not so much that he feels like you are getting to clingy. if you do that then that should take your mind off of your ex
2007-09-11 07:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with the wonderfull guy and kick the ex out of your thoughts . If the wonderfull one is good to you then go for it . kick the ex to the curb he has made you suffer enough. good luck .
2007-09-11 07:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give the that fool another chance. first of all he left you without saying a word and second of all he cheated on you. don't waste your time with him.
2007-09-11 07:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by coby300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the wonderful guy no, and if the guy was suck a butt head before, theres absolutely no reason why he would be different now. The s-c-r-e-w him.
2007-09-11 07:20:14 · answer #9 · answered by Peyton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play with his heart just like all females do. pretend your still interested and use him for his money and do this for a long time until he cant take it anymore....... paybacks a *****
2007-09-11 07:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋