If they paid you back?
I'm 24 now, but last yr., I was living back with my former foster family after Hurricane Katrina so I can finish up my college degree, since my home was destroyed. My former foster sister used my car for the whole day, when she could've used her own, & nothing was wrong with her car. She paid me back for the gas & told me that I "BETTER" use it for gas, instead of junk food. I feel like if you borrowed from me, I have the right to spend MY money that you paid me back on whatever I please. & at that time, I didn't spend my money on junk food. I'm just tired of being bullied & bossed around.
2007-09-11 07:07:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hello Dear,
I'm 30, and my wise advice would be for you to learn how to IGNORE your foster-sister and other bossy family members. I know its hard, but I also have very bossy family members so I know how you feel. First of all, dont let stupid comments like that turn into big overdrawn arguments--do you know what I'm saying? Just think to yourself "yeah, yeah-whatever" when they say comments like that, and walk out the room. Its not worth getting into an overblown shouting match.
As for who was right and who was wrong--your Foster-Sister was WRONG. She sounds like a very selfish, self centered person. On top of that she sounds a little on the dumb/ "slow" side. The smart, responsible thing she should have done was to A) ask your permission to borrow YOUR car; and B) fill the tank up with gas BEFORE she drove the car home.
Dear, the key to dealing with bossy relatives like that is to move as far away as possible. Otherwise you'll get a stroke or heart attack by all the aggravation they'll bring in your life. I moved 100 miles away from my family, and I've never been happier.. As soon as you can; move to another state. Also, always remember that God wants us to try and forgive our crazy relatives as much as possible; not for their sake but for ours. God knows that poor baby who "borrowed" your car aint wrapped too tight upstairs--so just leave that girl alone and keep moving. Just get your degeree and keep moving in the right direction...and next time, hide your car keys!
Peace :)
2007-09-11 11:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She was way out of line, but why would you let her borrow your car? It's time that you tell people the way you feel. And when I say how you feel, that's what I mean. If she upset you, you should've acted accordingly. It's not always good to go off immediately, but in her case she deserved it. Hopefully you know now not to let her borrow your car even if she wrecked hers and missed her bus. For what she said to you, I don't even think she's worthy of sitting in your back seat. She acted as if she did you a favor by giving you the gas money. You wouldn't have needed the gas money if the car had stayed parked.
2007-09-11 09:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's your money, you can spend it anyway you want. What if it happens that your gas tank is already full? Your former foster sis sounds controlling. Don't let her get to you. Those people in life become overwhelmed when things don't go their way so let her be the grouchy self that she is.
2007-09-11 08:11:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not, Whoever this was has their roles reversed, they are the beholding parties, I believe that if and when I lend money, I have the right to know what it is going to spent on and why they need to borrow it. Truth is that some people borrow money for frivolous reasons and some downright illegal. If I have money to lend, I am therefore a better money manager than the borrowing party and need no suggestions on how to spend it.
2007-09-11 07:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Robert D 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
These people (your foster family) are so ridiculous that I would have trouble not laughing if I met them. What a bunch of control freaks. Too bad you had to stay with them but I am glad you are out of there now. I bet you felt as if you had moved in with circus people. LOL
2007-09-11 07:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you have the right to spend your money any way you want even if somebody gave you the money. I'm thinking she just wanted to make sure there was gas in the car for her next time she used it.
2007-09-11 07:12:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yeah your sister was out of line. Maybe she was just trying trying to look out for you but it came out in the wrong way. It's your money, whether somebody else borrowed it or not, and it's your decision.
2007-09-11 08:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to use the money as you see fit...but remember some people make these little comments because they thin that it is funny. Similar to "don't spend it all in one place" when someone hands you a small amount of change. Inappropriate...yes...worth getting upset about...no.
best wishes
2007-09-11 07:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by TelulahB 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No more than your boss has the right to tell you how to spend your paycheck.
Or a giver has the right to tell the recipient how to use the gift.
Or a parent has the right to tell the other one how to spend the child support (as long as the kid is fed, clothed and healthy).
Once the "title" to property (or money) changes hands the first owner has no claims on it.
Next time she borrows your car, tell her she can only drive it in reverse.
Classless, and bossy, and stupid.
2007-09-11 07:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by Gem 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
NO. You were going to need gas eventually anyway. Who cares if you used the $20 bill in your pocket or the one she gave you. Its still all your money and coming out of your pocket. forget about it, its been a year, move on.
2007-09-11 07:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by make me 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋