Our son is now 1 yr old and is starting to get upset when we are holding him and put him down or walk away from him. Up until now, he never used to be like this and would always just crawl/walk away and not even notice. Is this part of what is called separation anxiety?? Strange this is, whenever someone else (like his grandma who is visiting) puts him down, walks away, ect he doesn't get upset at all and goes about his playing or fiddling around. What might be the cause of his new behavior that is specific towards his mother and father? Also, we were both shy when we were young and would like him to be more outgoing. We recently took him out of a home daycare where only 3-4 children were and placed him in a child daycare center w/ 7 children in his class and 2 teachers. They have a curriculum and teach them all kinds of useful skills from eating around a table in little chairs w/ their feet touching the ground. Will this help? He starts the new daycare tomorrow. Thx!!
2007-09-11 07:01:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes this is a stage of seperation anxiety that he is going through, and start watching for temper tantrums soon, they shouldn't be too far away. This behavior is specific towards the both of you becuase you are the 2 people that he knows best in his life, he knows that you are his mother/father. Don't feel bad becuase just about every parent goes through this. Having a set routine will help, you should expect it to possibly get worse when you start his new daycare when you are dropping him off, becuase he is not familiar with it. But giveit time and once he is set in his new routine he will slowing let go of it and will be wanting to go to daycare to play with his new friends.
2007-09-11 08:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by Andy's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go away from the house or have left him alone with someone like a babysitter, he is now at the stage that he is picking up on that and is feeling abondonment. Do not change your lifestyles or it will get worse. Just reassure him that you will be back and he will eventually learn that you do come back. Until he gets through this stage, be sure not to go overboard on your time away from him unless absolutely necessary like for work. And, sometimes it is good if both of you work to have someone switch shifts so that one of you is at home with him all the time. Childhood anxiety is a part of life but it can have some nasty effects if it isn't addressed properly. He really needs to know that you 'are' there for him when 'he' needs you. After all, he is still a baby in most respects and babies need their parents. It won't be long and he will be up and on his own and you will wonder where the time went. So for now, give him all the time you can and be as understanding about it as you can. He needs to feel secure and you are basically his security.
2007-09-11 07:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by 'Sunnyside Up' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He is beginning to understand that you and him are two separate things. I am sure it is a little scary for the little guys.
And it is common for them to get clingy with just one parent and not the other, so the thing with grandma doesn't surprise me.
Only time helps with separation anxiety. Little ones have no sense of time, so when you are gone from his sight it is like you are gone and never coming back. He just needs the reassurances of experience to show him that you WILL come back.
Day care helps with socialization, but it won't fix the separation anxiety. That is a function of his development, more so than environment.
2007-09-11 07:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by gefyonx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child is learning that you and his mother are a part of his family and this is when sepearation anxiety kick in. It's not going to matter what type of day care you place your child in. Your child is an individual and will have such a personallity. You can not force a child to be more outgoing if the child does not possess that type of personallity. You can put him into a day care where there are dozens of children and if your child is a loner he will be a loner period. Stop trying to force your child to be what you fantasize him being and start to learn how to enjoy your child for himself.
2007-09-11 15:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, he'll grow out of it it's seperation anxiety look it up............no fear.
2007-09-11 07:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by doe_eyes377 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋