best guy she has met by far and they are both madly in love but her religion says she can not marry a guy from another religion except hers and no sex b4 marriage. He is athiest. what would you do if you were in such a state. should they both give up? she wasnt even meant to date in the 1st place but you cant help who you fall for!
2007-09-11 06:24:53 · 38 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i personally believe that you should follow your heart.
if your parents or carers or whoever you live with don't accept, you should tell them you appreciate your religion, but you love this person.
but be careful, if you are sure about this boy, you may have to choose him or your family.
however, if you weren't meant to date in the first place but dated him, you should expect some trouble!
but i personally think you should wait until you're ready for sex.
:)!
2007-09-11 06:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by ohbutimagine 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As you read the responses to this question by some of the atheists perhaps you will begin to see what her life will be like. I'm also starting to wonder why people would ask a question like this on line. How can anyone who doesn't know the two people possibly tell you how things will work out?
As for those who say "love conquers all", I wish they could spend a week in my shoes. I wish they could go to the divorce courts with me and sit with people as they say the most hateful things about people they once loved. I wish they could sit in counseling with the children of divorce and hear the pain and the turmoil they suffer.
The truth is that love doesn't conquer all. Human love is a felling and often lust is misidentified for love. Yes, someone here will tell you it worked for them and it probably did. But for every one situation where it worked, there are many more where it didn't.
You now understand how atheists feel about religion. How do you think the relationship will end up if this woman cares anything about her faith? What kind of life will she have where she can't share her faith with her husband? What kind of decisions will she make about the children? What sort of life will she have either ignoring her faith because her family doesn't share it or going off to worship by herself each week?
And we don't have the information we need to make this decision. What if she is a Muslim living in Iran? What kind of life would she have shunned by her community?
There are too many unknowns for anyone here to give you an intelligent answer to this question.
Pastor John
2007-09-11 07:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give up your religion, what a stupid thing to follow if it is all about someone else controlling what you do, or who you date or marry, etc. Why do people not ever question why their religion is discriminatory? Especially because out of one side of their mouths they state God created everything and we are all God's children, then the other side of the their mouths that they can not date/marry, etc someone who is not part of their religion because obviously they are not good enough. Can you see the contradiction that it creates? Hopefully you have not been brainwashed too much by your religion to see clearly.
Have you also not questioned yourself to why you would believe in a religion that is so full of hate and discrimination? Why do you follow the thoughts of someone or a group of people well over 2,000 years ago? Back when they thought that the earth was flat, that the sun rotated around the earth, that lightening and thunder and volcanoes erupting were God being pissed off at humans, etc. It makes me always shake my head in disbelief that people still believe in that, it has been the best con game ever. Getting people to believe in the fears and lack of understanding of simple minded people who could barely scrape an existence in the desert sand. So do you still believe that an earthquake is God being angry? If not, then why believe anything else.
Grow up and either you like this guy and go along the path and use the excuse that it must be God's will (which your religion must accept since you can not prove it wrong), or break it off with him and crawl back under that rock with the rest of the mindless religious followers world-wide.
2007-09-11 06:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by disturbed001500 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Atheist or not, you would be hard pressed to find a guy that would date you even though you will not have sex with him. Sex is important to guys and the only guys you could possibly find that would go along with that are guys that believe the same thing you do.
Personally, I think that saving yourself for marriage is a mistake and that before you can get married you need experience with different people. As long as you're safe about it it shouldn't be a problem.
Also, I have a real problem with the last thing you said—"you cant help who you fall for." You absolutely can help who you fall for, and people who claim that you can't are just people that are content to just let life wash over them like a tsunami rather than taking control of and being accountable for their own lives. In reality, you have control over your feelings if you only choose to exercise it. If she was really into her religion and wanted to avoid this kind of situation, she should have made sure that she didn't fall for him.
So, in conclusion, she should really break it off now, because the difference in their religious views will cause problems. As an atheist myself I can tell you that they'll get annoyed with each other's views after a while.
2007-09-11 07:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes. They would be unequally yoked (2 Cor 6:14-16). To get the fullness out of a relationship you must be on one accord or at least agreeable. Religion is a major part and something not to be ignored. Eventually it will clash. You will have to stay strong and break up or comprimise. I have watched many people fall because of it. The Bible says that evil communications corrupt good manners( 1Cor 15:33). Someone that denies your God is an evil influence to what you believe.
It will really kick in when you get married and especially once you have children. If you are not willing to make the lifetime commitment to someone then there is no sense in getting your heart involved then broken.
There are millions of men in the world don't comprimise at one.
Sometimes what we think is best is credited to our own limitations.
2007-09-11 06:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by stepphie aka Jesus Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The question resides in whether the religious girl is committed to her faith, and whether the atheist is on the fence and could become a person of her religion. There must be an element of shared values in a relationship. Something as strongly held as religious convictions have impact that lasts the rest of a person's life. When children come to a relationship where parents are divided on these core issues, it causes division in the home. It is best to marry someone who shares your convictions.
Followup: Note that I am NOT condoning evangelism through marriage!!! NEVER!! I'm only saying that an atheist and a person of any religion... or two persons of two different religions... or even two Christians who are so doctrinally divided that they can not worship together... are incompatible due to the fact that profound personal convictions on matters of religion, regardless of what religion they are (or are not), must be shared.
2007-09-11 06:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by lizardmama 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First what are the religions and two how deep are willing to go in a life together. Who cares to! I say they love and care for each other that should not stop them. Also it does not matter. The only thing is that God is always the one to forgive any stupid thing you or anyone does. So that should not love in no matter anything. Main thing I stress is go with the flow. Take the twist and turn that are thrown in life and never look back. Peace!
2007-09-11 06:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by wordistob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would follow my head and not my heart, because divorce really really sucks and your "feelings" of love and attraction are only going to get you so far.
Sex before marriage is just sex, a person's sexuality was created to express love for a lifelong mate and strengthen the bond that they have. It is something that should expand the horizons of the marriage by being open to sharing that love with the world by producing children.
Sex that is just for the fun of it or to fulfill a need for closeness is inward facing and selfishly using of each other and will not give life to each other or the world around you.
2007-09-11 06:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is easy for me - leave the religion. Then again, Im an atheist myself...
Im certain that if I was religious, my response would be the opposite.
I think you need to find the answser out on your own. Do whats best for YOU, not whats best for your religion or whats best for everyone else around you.
2007-09-11 06:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would let the lady know that her kind of thinking was great in 1757, but in 2007, maybe it is a little old fashion and will lead her into a great life of depression. How sad that people of that religion are only allowed to marry somebody who sees the world exactly the same way they do. I feel pity for ones like that.
B
2007-09-11 06:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by Bacchus 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋