my ex hasn't seen our daughter since she was born. she is now a year old. his name is not on the birth certificate because he refused to acknowlegde his paternity for fear of haveing to pay child support. he keeps emailing me saying how he wants us to work things out and how he misses me but he never metions our child. he just acts like she doesn't exist. the few time he has said anything about her (after i brought her up ) he called her "the baby" i want to tell him to get lost but am afraid that i will be hurting my daughter by keeping him away. at least if i'm with him he'll have to see her. but i'm also afraid that he will make her life miserable. i really hate him now and wish he would go away please hel pme what would you do??? i just don't want my daughter to grow up without her daddy i think if he just spent time with her he would love her as much as i do.
2007-09-11 06:03:00 · 10 answers · asked by marie87 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
In my opinion (not ever meeting my father myself), it didnt hurt me too much. I mean, I still wonder about him, and I do plan to one day try and meet him but, i think for her, if he is bad for you...he's bad for her. Give her the choice when she gets older. You dont want her growing up with someone like that and the drama that will come with it.
2007-09-11 06:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by That Atheist chick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just move on with your life. If he can't pay child support then why should he see his child. If you do go after him for child support then he might want visitation rights. There are guys out there that will love your daughter as if she were there own. It's best that she doesn't grow up with a father like that. He didn't even want his name on her birth certificate. How low is that. You can go after him for child support and they will give him a court order to have a paternity test done. but that's only if you want him in your life for the next 17 yrs.
2007-09-11 07:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already been absent the first year of her life. If he doesn't acknowledge her then you really aren't keeping anything from your daughter, besides the heartache of not being acknowledged by her father. If he wants to see her, make him start paying child support, he can't have his cake and eat it too.
2007-09-11 06:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by izzymo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your ex control your life again!!! he should be nobody to you again since he refused to acknowledge his paternity because of child support!@#$????? why would you want to see or live with that kind of person. of course, he's the father but you daughter will understand eventually why you made that decision. And please don't say that you still love him.
anyway, call social services, police, FBI and everybody else if he keeps bothering you
2007-09-12 19:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by ym16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him love anyone. Go to welfare dept, they will help you make him get a paternity test, he needs to pay child support, and trust me the only reason this dead beat is sniffing around you again is so you won't nail him for the money.
2007-09-11 06:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all get a good lawyer and make the dude pay child support he needs to support the baby. you dnt' love him and he does not love you. hes being indiffernt so you dont' need him in the life much. but he will pay to help with his baby there will be dna testing and then he will help but dont' give him your wedding vows he does not deserve it and netierh does the baby.
2007-09-12 16:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could still contact the courts and get child support from him i think. your daughter would be better off never knowing her father rather than having a dead beat dad. you could find someone else who would love her and treat her like their own. thats what i would do..get him for child support and get full custody of her and move on
2007-09-11 06:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by linney04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him...he is not worth all this thinking .i think by what u have written he is going to do more harm to ur daughter.u have already suffered a lot DONT PUT URSELF IN ITNOW AGAIN.I think u still love him...but darling its not true for him he is just using u and if u fall in his traps this time u can never get out .ur no longer alone u r a mother now . frankly speaking ur foolish ness has already done a lot of harm to urself .so better think now or ....
2007-09-11 06:21:44 · answer #8 · answered by kapila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a dumb SOB for not wanting to see his baby. She will grow up fine without someone like that in her life. Find someone that will love her as much as you and forget about that dumb ***.
2007-09-11 06:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by gdolboy74 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no guarantee that even if you were together he'd be a father. I think you need to write him off personally. Tell him that he's welcome to see his child anytime he pleases but you need to move on in your life and find someone to give your child what she needs as well as giving yourself a companion.
2007-09-11 06:11:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋