I've been dating this guy for about 6 months and I really want to break up with him. But I have a problem.....I'm not good a sweet break-ups. Normally if I want to break up with a guy I just tell them it's over or pick a fight and never answer their calls again. I don't want to wait for this guys to do something wrong. I just want him to leave me alone.
He hs never been married has no kids and my good money. I have 3 kids and make okay money ( enough to support me and my kids). But everytime we do anything or I take my kids somewhere he wants to go and i end up paying his way. He borrows money from me. He will act like he has left his debt card at home or something and will ask if I can pay and he will pay me back when we get home. I NEVER get it back.
And now that I'm looking for another house he is kind-of hinting around that he wants to stay with me....NO WAY. I know I'd end up taking care of the bills.
So, I can I tell him to screw off in a way the will actully work.
2007-09-11 04:52:53 · 14 answers · asked by okay,okay....i give up 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him exactly how you feel. If you're trying to break it off nicely, don't. Someone's feelings will always be hurt. But, wouldn't you rather be secure in knowing you were true to yourself than spare HIM any hurt? He's a freeloader and you don't need that. It's time to send him packing.
2007-09-11 05:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS believe what a man does, not what he says he will do!
It sounds like he is milking you and using your conscience as a nice person to exploit you.
Just turn around and say "Look, I am sorry but I am splitting up with you".
End the sentence and the relationship at that - I guarantee he will find a way of milking your vulnerable consicence, so the way to avoid is is to give no reason - or at least one he can't argue against ("I just don't fancy you anymore" is a good one!).
This person isn't doing your life well, in fact it sounds like he is an extra "child" but returns none of the love and longing you get from your own children!
Congratulations on what you have done with your life so far - good job, 3 kids - now don't let some con artist ruin it all for you.
Don't compromise on this - even if you have to say "f@@@ off" to get rid of him I think you should.
Good luck - I am sure you are a lovely person and I hope you find someone special who will compliment you and your children (rather than exploit you)!!!
2007-09-11 12:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 3 children and you act like you're in middle school when it comes to relationships? Pathetic.
Instead of hinting around for him to "screw off," as you so eloquently put it, why don't you grow up and tell him straight out, "I'm sorry, but this just isn't going to work out. I don't see a future with us."
2007-09-11 11:56:42 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need 'a line' Why dont tell him exactly what you have just said in your question. The truth is always best even if it hurts.
BTW you shouldn't just not answer people calls its rude and shows them no respect. If you are going to break up with someone at least have the courage and the decency to do it properly.
2007-09-11 11:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by regaloid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to give him a line. If you make up an excuse, he might just argue with you and he may not be convinced to leave. Just be honest. Tell him that you're at different places in your lives right now, so you're not compatible. Make sure he doesn't get the address to your new house; otherwise, he might continue to cling on.
2007-09-11 12:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about the truth? That you think that he is a bit of a mooch and that you already have to support 3 kids, you don't need another one.
2007-09-11 11:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Wanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this is not working. You're looking for a man, not another child to take care & that you're tired of paying his way & it's over.*click*
2007-09-11 12:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was dealing with a guy such as you described, I'd flat-out tell him he is cheap and a mooch and to GET OUT, as in "See ya, don't let the door hit'ch ya ."
2007-09-11 12:27:14 · answer #8 · answered by stellawrenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-11 11:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to "get away from me you lousy, cheap, no good, maladjusted, stupid, ignorant, moronic, self-centered, egotistical, jerk, azz-hole". I think he might get the hint, maybe.
2007-09-11 12:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋