I just cant seem to get along with the dog. I think it is because it continues to cost me so much money because she insist that he have the best of everything and he destroys what he does have. I swear I have spent more on the dog than my own children in the past few months. That is another issue. She says the dog is just like a child. I can honestly say I do not see for anyone who has children (she does not) to feel the same way about an animal as they do they're kids. Maybe like she says, " it's just you, most everyone else feels the way I do."
2007-09-11 04:52:04 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My wife and I are the same way. She insists that the dog is another one of our kids. I love our dog, but I love the kids more. If our house was on fire the kids come 1st, poor spot may not make it out. Is that a bad thing to say, maybe, but my family is more important. If there was time, sure I would make sure the dog gets out.
It is not just you. I am sure this topic could be split 50 -50. Is it good to spoil a dog? No. Just like it is not good to spoil a kid. The dog knows that he has control over her and uses that. The pack mentality can come into affect. If the dog feels he is in control, and your wife lets him, your dog will run your house.
I know this because my wife is a breeder and we have seen this even with our own dog and others as well.
Does she help you with your kids? Im guessing not. It is just a dog. Nothing can replace the time you spend with your kids. A dog can give you that, but not like kids. Sit her down and tell her what's goign on. If she doesnt like it, it may be time to move on.
So to answer your question, no sir, you are not alone in the way you feel. Good luck!
2007-09-11 04:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no a dogs life has no comparison to a humans life especially your child.A dog will never be like a child no mattter what she says/ Why are you spending money on your girlfriends dog? you have kids dude you should tell her that next time she wants something for the dog be like how about we take the kids out for icecream. I think she has some serious issues b/c I think she just wants kids and this is her way of showing it. basically if she wants something for the dog make HER buy it.its not your responsibility its not even your dog.it will be the people with no children who are going to be like my doggie is my baby! your right there dude and no your not being an Ahole.
2007-09-11 04:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by hispregnantwife! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dogs are gorgeous creatures, and I know when I had them I absolutely adored them, but to spoil a dog and treat it like a child isn't good for it. If she has brought it up this way though, it is too late to change it. Dogs need to be taught right from the beginning where there place is in the household. Unfortunatly with your girlfriend it's a case of "love me, love my dog" and you can't expect her to suddenly start treating the dog differently, so you'll just have to put up and shut up, or get rid of your girlfriend and the dog together.
2007-09-11 05:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pets can be like children to us that truly love animals. Not everyone has that kind of personality and that's ok. You don't have to adore the dog, but they can be charming and good company. If the dog has behaviour issues, then tell her that you are not spending another dime on the dog until she takes it to obedience school. If she doesn't like it, too bad. You do not have to spend money on HER dog. It's her dog, her responsibility.
2007-09-11 04:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a dog lover but I know some pet lovers see their pets as their children but if you dont like the damn dog, you dont and I wouldnt buy the best for some b*tch to destroy. There is no way in hell you should be spening more on a dog than a human child.
2007-09-11 04:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's her dog, then she should be footing the cost and taking care of it. Especially since she is just your girlfriend and she thinks of her dog like her own child. Would she expect others to pay for everything concerning her own child, and not take responsibility and make restitution if her child destroyed something belonging to another person?
2007-09-11 04:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to like her dog. It seems like your doing a good job of putting up with it and respecting her feelings though. Does she want children? If so this could be the reason she is so attached to the dog.
2007-09-11 04:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry David.....But I have 3 HUGE dogs and they are like kids!!! I dont know what I would do without them, however I dont think I spend $$ like that on ridiculous items they dont need! My boyfriend would have to love my dogs as well or I couldnt be with him since most of my time is around my son and the "Girls"...Good Luck
2007-09-11 04:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by Manda J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop spending money on her dog then. If the dog destroys something of yours, it's her responsibility to repair, replace, or pay for it.
I love dogs, but I'm not going to allow someone else's animal to tear up my home or my belongings or greatly inconvenience me. If I wanted all that, I'd have my own dog...except it would behave properly.
2007-09-11 04:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Know what? I'm not a dog person either. I have cats, but my kids come first. I love my cats but there is a limit to the amount of money I'll spend. I hope this is not one of those trendy purse dogs. If it is I'm so sorry(for you).
2007-09-11 04:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋