When meeting a new woman ,have you noticed she always asks," What is your occupation, what do you drive and ,

Question

Where do you live?"
I say she is really asking " What is your net worth?"

What do you think?

Before long they'll be asking for FICO scores and your portfolio.

Answer 1

Instead of complaining about it, start asking them those same questions and make dating decisions based on the criteria they use.

Personally, I haven't encountered women like that though.

Answer 2

Nothing at all wrong with a woman asking out of friendly interest "What line of work are you in?" Lots of people ask that, not out of any special motive, just as part of friendly conversation. I don't know why a woman would ask what kind of car the man drives. If they are going out on a date, she's going to find out soon enough isn't she?

If a relationship begins to develop and looks as if it might be going to the next level, a woman has every right to know a bit more about the man, and that includes knowing whether he is a person of work ethic, integrity, and has the interest and the enthusiasm to pursue a good life and occupation. It's pretty important to know whether that person you may be going to make a life together with, has a character and personality that matches yours. Certainly anyone has a right to know what sort of life he or she might expect to have with that other person, and, in the case of a woman, she has the added concern about what kind of co-parent the man is going to make for any children they have together some day.

I think that far from being too inquisitive about the man she has just started seeing, most women are not nearly inquisitive enough. They tend to lead with their emotions instead of their brain. Love does NOT "conquer all". Sadly what it often does is just toss all the really important stuff right out the window, and that usually comes back to haunt them on down the road.

Answer 3

I have never asked a guy any of those questions!
I think it's kinda rude!
I just moved into a new place and a guy in the neighborhood asked me if I had a mortgage or if I payed cash!
I thought, not only was that a rude question but there are so many other things about me that he could have asked!
AND YES....I do think when people ask those $$ kind of questions, they are curious about your net worth.

Answer 4

You're absolutely right. For some women, there are legitimate reasons to ask these things. They are looking for someone who is stable, both emotionally and financially. I don't think that's a shallow expectation. For instance, they might not want someone who is 35 and still hasn't figurfed out what he wants to be "when he grows up."

But for some women, it's purely shallow, selfish reasons......just depends on the woman. There's really no reason for them to ask about your CAR!!! The wealthiest guy I ever dated drove an old Toyota Camry....definitely NOT sexy or stylish. But he made alot of money, invested it well, and didn't feel the need to drive a fancy sports car....he was smart about his money and I think that's great!

Now, I can understand wanting to know about your occupation because it not only gives an idea of financial stability but also tells you something about that person's personality.

Answer 5

Since women don't "always" do anything (any more than men do) your question becomes invalid from the get go. I've never asked a guy any of those things except "what do you do for a living" and that wasn't until we'd been chatting a bit and it hadn't come up in conversation.

I think you're comparing 3.3 billion women to one or two whom you've met that asked you something similar. Beware of making blanket statements...they're almost always wrong, and just tend to cause the asker to look foolish.

Answer 6

Basically yes, but it's not as bad as you think. You can tell a lot about personality by possessions and occupations. Does he pump gas or is he a professional, does he rent or own, or couch surf? Someone who pumps gas drives a beater and couch surfs isn't really going any place in life (unless he is 16) and if the woman is ambitious on her own then they are two different personality levels. Dating at your own level both professionally, financially and personality makes for much better matches.

Secondly it also lets us know how much you are willing to talk about you, and if you are telling tall tales. We are sneaky devils, but we have goals in life as well. But do beware of the gold diggers and the I wants, they ask the same questions.

Answer 7

Not so much as what your worth, more of a "am I gonna be paying for everything" type question.

I"m the same, I've never dated a woman without a job, I don't make enough to be a sugar daddy.

I'm surprised she didn't ask where you live, cause if it's still with mama forget about it.

Answer 8

Well girls normally don't ask me about my car, but they do want to know your net worth and I think thats sad really...
but it is a fact of life

Answer 9

Maybe she doesn't want to waste her time on someone she may have to support. I'd ask the same questions if I were single & dating. No bums 4 me!

Answer 10

That is strange, I never ask a man those questions. I might has where he lives, out of curiousity but not the other questions.