Especially by a spouse?
2007-09-11 01:59:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I can't speak about being personally abused. What I can talk about is knowing someone who was abused by love ones, and remembering her telling me it was reading Joyce Meyers that helped her a lot.
After that, I added Joyce to my list of writers to read, and found out why my friend loves Joyce. She writes from the same experiences, of telling how a lifetime of abuse from her father drove her to a point of wanting to die, to finding the love of God and how He has helped to heal her scars.
2007-09-11 02:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people use the term "time heals all wounds".
I would like to give you another angle of sort of the same thing, or statement. it will take some time to heal from all the pain, depending on what you do with the pain.
- You can go see someone who is a trained professional, who helps people get through similar situations.
-You can start praying to God and Jesus to help you through this.
- You can stuff it and try to make it go away.
-You can get into another relationship, right away, so that it doesn't hurt so much.
Chances are, if you chose the last two, it will all come back to you in a negative way somehow.
2007-09-19 01:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by sharky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can do the best I can to answer this from my own experience. My first husband abused me . Almost killed me and yes the Lord healed me physically and mentally and emotionally and spiritually. He has healed me enough I have forgiven this man and I pray for his salvation. It was the most amazing thing when I realized I could with the help of the Father forgive. That is when the healing is truly complete!! Bless you and I hope this helps..
2007-09-18 14:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Rev.Leal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is complete healing in Christ. You may never forget that it happened but God is able to give you the peace to live with your past and use it to help others who have gone through the same type of experiences. I have a similar past and found help in my church with a program they have which is called "Living Free". Not only did the Lord heal me from those past hurts, He also exposed other areas of my life that were affected by this situation that I was not even aware of. I now help facilitate some of these classes and give back some of the hope that I so desperately needed.
2007-09-11 02:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Vanessa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, it is impossible to completely heal from abuse because something will always be present that will be a reminder of your experience, most prominently this will be the memories but it affects people in different ways.
The most important thing about moving on from abuse is taking care of yourself and surrounding yourself with some people that you can truly trust and who love you unconditionally. Remember that it is not your fault.
Abuse can teach us to be stronger and the best way to help yourself to heal is to harness what you have learnt from your experiences and to use it to help other people who have suffered or are suffering, you are a gift, and an inspiration because you are here looking for answers, so keep going and good luck!
2007-09-17 14:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by vixiechix03 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By a spouse? I can't speak from experience on that. However, a user I haven't seen on here for awhile CAN. Her husband was abusive for years...then they both became Christians, and all the hurt between them disappeared. I can get you a link to her blog if you'd like. She shared it here once before, so I'm sure she wouldn't mind.
As for me, I experienced sexual abuse for nearly four years at the hands of my adopted grandfather. For YEARS I hated him, and after he died, I hoped he was in hell. I don't hate him anymore. What he did was wrong, especially since he claimed to be such a good Christian, but I don't hate him. I pity him. And every single effect that this had on me (there were a LOT of negative effects) have since disappeared. I would say that yes, I've been completely healed.
2007-09-11 02:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was abused physically emotionally and mentally. I had to do some of the work myself...ie: understand why I allowed it in the first place, forgive the abuser and RElearn how to choose people that were good for me - both male and female. I needed to understand where it all began. I also prayed and asked God to show me who I was IN HIM. I also asked Him to show me the specific wounds that were there, holding me back...and as He did, I dealt with them (usually with the help of a wise Christian counselor). It didn't happen overnight....but I can honestly say, I do not have issues with it any more. You CAN get through this and have a great life, IF you are 100% determined to get to the bottom of things and get the help needed. The book, "The Bondage Breaker" by Neil Anderson helped me.
2007-09-18 17:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
books like "beauty for ashes" (Joyce Meyer)
"woman thou art Loosed" (TD Jakes)
and much prayer and believing for healing has caused this to occur. It's a long hard process sometimes but I always remember Jesus saying "I am willing, be made whole" He never turned down anyone who came to him for healing and so when I go to him I remind him of his word and thank him for healing me (emotionally) from the years of pain and abuse. The most powerful tool for Healing is God's word because then you know his true will for you and how he sees you. So many times abusers belittle a person and their favorite weapon is "condemnation". The bible says there is no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus".
2007-09-11 02:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by sisterzeal 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know one that was mentally, and somewhat physically abused (unnecessary whippings. good ones too) as a child.
Loved his mother till the day she died.
Damn sure doesn't' trust women though.
They are experts at being one type of person, then when Father comes home, being another.
What's the permanent affect? Don't trust people by outward appearance. Having to learn how the read people.
2007-09-11 02:11:29 · answer #9 · answered by rangedog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time can heal and only time. I'm a male who had an abusive father I remember as a kid he would discipline us my mother use to say not with a closed fist EDDIE that was his name.My mother use to get hers to.But as the years went by things Just straighten out I guess I got to big for him and my mother stopped going out. And things got happier ever after.My mother got over it to. She just past recently and my father took it hard he paid for all his abusiveness.God works in mysterious ways.
2007-09-19 01:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by GW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋