I always thought that marriage was for Betty propers, but now that i have found love i am considering it. but im also afraid it will kill our romance, and what if i meet another guy?
2007-09-11 00:59:44 · 17 answers · asked by readergrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
to many doubts you are not ready for the big step.................
2007-09-11 01:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, marriage will not kill a romance. Time is what tones down romance, marriage or no marriage. Love is something you have to work at, and it changes as you are together longer. You won't always have the same burning passion that you have in the beginning of a relationship, but you do develop a stronger, deeper love.
Secondly, if you are afraid of meeting another guy, you probably haven't found "the one" yet. When you find the right person to marry, you have no desires for anyone else (or shouldn't, anyway). Just think about it, and decide if you want to be with this guy for the rest of your life. If you feel there may be someone better suited for you, don't marry. You'll know when he's the right guy.
2007-09-11 01:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid that you're going to meet someone better than your current love, you aren't ready to get married OR you don't truly love him enough to marry him. I also never knew if I'd get married but now that I'm with my current bf, I have NO questions as to whether or not I want to marry him. I'm not worried about meeting anyone better because we're a perfect fit.
Also, you keep the romance alive by working at it. All relationships need to be worked on and you can't just stop working on yours once you're married.
2007-09-11 04:15:14 · answer #3 · answered by tink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are always doubts, like am I doing the right thing?
But if you truly love some one you want to build a life with that person. If you are already thinking about another relationship, and what if a better guy comes along, wait to get married.
2007-09-11 01:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking the same question many many women have asked before you...one of them being my sister who thought if she got married to her boyfriend, he'd lose interest. Getting married changes things, but it shouldn't change people. If it does, there are some issues to be worked out big time! Marriage isn't for everyone, and it sorta sounds like it isn't really for you.
This is not a question anybody can really answer because you need to do what your heart is telling you to. The problem with people today is that we rely too much on our brain and logics that we forget to listen to our heart. Only you can come up with your best advice for this situation. I'm not saying that you can't ask what other people think, but who cares because it ultimately will be your decision to make.
I hope I wasn't sounding judgemental, but I believe you have the ability to do this, you are able to follow what your heart tells you, and not your brain.
2007-09-11 01:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jaimee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking a question like this on Yahoo! Answers and are concerned about meeting another guy, then the answer is no.
When you get married you commit yourself to that person and that person alone. It sounds like you have too many doubts about the relationship.
2007-09-11 01:18:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its awesome that you are opening up to the idea of marriage, I think you should never close your doors to any possibility, however if you are worried about finding another guy than although you love this guys he is not "the one" for you. You will know when you meet "the one" b/c although you will still think guys are hot you will not have that desire to go out and meet or hook up with other guys and you won't think "what if I meet another guy" b/c you know this is the guy for you and you want to spend your life with him.... Good luck
2007-09-11 01:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by cattier23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you can see being with him for the next 50 or so year and want to have his kids i say go for it but if you can 't then wait in till you feel that way about him or find the guy that make you feel that way and if you really love each other then you should have no problem keeping the romance...... i still have romance even after 13 years...good luck.
2007-09-11 02:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. If you are concerned about meeting another guy, then you are not ready.
2007-09-11 01:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by G.V. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried there may be a better guy out there than don't get married.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment don't rush into marrying someone your not sure about.
2007-09-11 01:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by RedWolf7374 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. Only marry if you are absolutely sure that this person is the one you are going to be with for the rest of your life.
2007-09-11 01:09:14 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋