im 21and i have been dating my gf for over a year now and everything is great, but when we first started dating i was like 30 pounds over weight. well sence than i have lost all the weight and gained a lot more muscle, needless to say for the first time in my life other women are comming on to me and liking me more. my gf is not the prettyest girl in the world she is just average but its her personality i love so much, well for the past few weeks i have been having strong feelings for other girls, not emotional feelings but sexual feeling, i dont want to date them just do them. But i know if this were to happen it would destroy my current relationship and i dont want that. and with these othere girls comming on to me its making this thing a whole lot harder. Should i worry or what should i do????
2007-09-11 00:28:10 · 18 answers · asked by joshua d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing to worry about and actually it is pretty normal to have those feelings. But you shouldn't be having sex with anyone if they are not your wife.
And I think you need to send down and really decide what you want to do in your present relationship and what you want out of it in the long term. If you are not wanting to marry her then you need to end the relationship for her.
2007-09-11 00:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
None of this makes you a bad guy. It doesn't, and as a woman I'm not going to "say" it does just to manipulate you into staying in a relationship w/ someone because of their "personality". What's wrong with leaving somebody because you want to have sex w/other people? You want to have as much sex w/as many attractive women as possible. So go do it. Tell your GF "I care for you, but I have too many needs that you cannot fill @ this time." Tell her "Some things have arisen @require special attention from individuals outside of the relationship." She won't cry. Anyway, you are too young for something so serious, I think. 21 is not the time to get married, or act like you are married.
End your relationship. Be mature about it. Be professional about it. If she cries, don't worry about it; she'll get over it. Really. Now get out there & get those woman & don't let ANYONE talk you out of it. You'll find "another" nice GF later. Good luck!
2007-09-11 08:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was kinda the opposite for me, i was always real skinny but a couple years in the military i put on some muscle, well im still skinny lol, but better i guess, and i get more attention from women now. I dont think people should be in commited relationships so young, because your early 20s is when you do the most growing and changing as a person, when you really begin to discover who you are and who you will be.
Im not saying you should break up and go do these other girls, if you are a gambling man you can bring this up to her and see if she is ok with it. That probably wont be the case tho. But you should still try and be honest. Though it might mean the end of your relationship.
2007-09-11 07:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To many girls and even women both emotional and sexual feeling are very impotant to the eventhough they are not the same.However, since you love her for some time and is until now that you be came pretty your are approching by other girls and all that time she beared with you, so why dont your resist the situation as she did to you. Remember sexual satisfaction is not of a long time joy,but emotional feeling last long,and no matter what , be with who ever have emotional feeling on you particularly this your girl friend who loved you when other girls dont ever noticed your existance.
2007-09-11 09:07:38 · answer #4 · answered by brownish de dabo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound weak and like other guys make the mistake of falling into the pretty girls trap. your gf liked you when you weren't in the best shape and gave you a chance and i'm sure she trusts you and you shouldn't succomb to your animal instincts and sleep with anyone else. One day look at your gf and imagine your feelings for the other girls in her and you just might look at her from another perspective that way. The devil's easiest traps for humans is playing with our minds and making us belive that the person were with isn't good enough for us and you can get better.......if you make that mistake you'll always look back at this girl and know you missed out on a great love.....
2007-09-11 07:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by mna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay faithful. Your girlfriend stuck by you when you thought nobody else would. You are getting stuck in the "overall appearance" world. When you know how bad it hurts to be shut out of society because of appearance reasons. The girls coming on to you are shallow. Would they have given you a second glance if you were 30 pounds heavier? I doubt it. The real person is in your girlfriend. Make her proud by being faithful and fit... gorgeous and strong. AND ALL HERS! Trust me on this one - your gf is very very proud of you - don't hurt her by shutting her out now.
2007-09-11 07:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by MurphysGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not uncommon for this to happen. You are feeling more self confident. The thing you have to keep in mind is that this girl fell in love with you when you looked less attractive.. She's loyal man. honestly in this world that seems harder and harder to find. Just have lots of sex with your girl.. chances are she finds you sexier now too.
2007-09-11 07:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by umannjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way.....These other girls are very shallow, they didn't want you when you were 30 lbs heavier but your girlfriend did, she loves you for who you are not what you look like. What if you gain the weight back? The shallow girls will ditch you in a heart beat.
2007-09-11 07:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for a steady relationship, it is not fair on your girl friend, can you honestly say that you have not encouraged these girls, if you loved your girl friend , she would be the prettiest in the world, not average as you put it.
2007-09-11 07:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear buddy, u r not a bad guy, u r just immature...i think u r experiencing temporary success with female, u'r too much preoccupied with this ephemeral state...u'd better calm down...& think it over what u really need, if u want to keep ur beautiful relationships with ur g-friend then do not spend ur attention & precious time on these shady fast going relationships...
2007-09-11 07:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by miraclelight777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋