I have a friend who I care for very much, she has a 2 year old son and I have a 4 year old son. I care very much for my friend and I just love her boy. Unfourtunately she wants me to constantly praise him, if he gets a new outfit she will ask 20 times how cute he look (even if it is a new t-shirt), if he gets his pictures taken she will show them to me a thousand time and ask me if they arent just the cutest. The truth of the matter is they aren't and I don't go gaga over a new t-shirt. I guess I am having a issue with the fact that she goes on and on about how cute blond haired blue eyed kids are and wants me to agree, but my son is brown headed and has brown eyes and I think big brown eyed babies are adorable, sometimes I feel like she wants me to betray my own son. Basically I am wondering (other than avoiding her) how I can avoid being expected to partake in the 24/7 praisefest of her son.
2007-09-11 00:25:51 · 7 answers · asked by littlebit 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i have (had) a friend who did the same. she was forever going on about how adorable her child was and yes he was a lovely little thing and obviously shes gonna be biased cos he was her kid but i didnt need to hear it a million times a day.
she recently entered her son into a cute baby competition and was mortified when she lost, and then expected me to run around after her telling her how beautiful and perfect her child was, yet when i said something about how lovely my boy was or how i thought he looked fantastic in his school uniform she would just say hmm yeah and look away - so i get what u mean and its so infuriating to see someone so wrapped up in thier own little world they cant see past thier own nose and that really bugs me!!
Another thing that irritated me was, we went to her sons christening and my son was in a suit and at the reception after was dancing away and it was really funny, she came up and asked me to bring my son off the dance floor as people were paying more attention to him then they were the baby that got christenig and i was like YOU WHAT?? so we left and since then we have considerably backed off from her
yeah everyone thinks thier own kids are gorgeous, hell my son to me is the most perfect little thing ever but i know that not everyone wants to hear that or have that thrown in thier faces every minute of the day.
So eventually i got sick of hearing her babble on and just kinda stopped hanging around with her. i speak to her occassionally but people that are only interested in thier own little lives and dont give a damn about thier friends arent friends to me and i would rather not have people like that in my life.
You could do what i did and just stop all contact or you could tell her how you feel? she probably wont see what she is doing as anythign wrong but you need to tell her how much she is winding you up and put a stop to it or she will never back off!!!
good luck, i hope u get everything sorted
and ps my son has brown hair and brown eyes and i think its LUSH!!
2007-09-11 02:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by saera 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you about the brown eyes and brown hair...that is so adorable.I have 3 girls and they all have dark brown hair, and eyes.Beautiful!
Does your friend ever praise your son?Sounds to me like she isn't confident that her son is cute.Sounds like she needs some reassurance.Then again it could be that she is a proud mother of an adorable son and she tends to over do-it sometimes.Just bare with her , and you can still praise her son, but make sure that you praise your own son just as much!Just give her some time, it should eventually wear down a little!!
I would not let it come between your friendship!!!
2007-09-11 00:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should point it straight to her. Otherwise it will never end. Worse you may end up not liking her son because of her. She is probably unaware of what she is doing. It happens when people become moms for the first time.
The blond and blue eyes stupidity is horrible. It’s sad to have a mom who places value in outward appearance. I feel sad for her son.
Good luck.
2007-09-11 00:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by SK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she asks you a question, like if her son's pictures are cute, just say yes. You could respond generically like "I think all babies are cute." or "Yes, blond hair is cute, but most blond babies become brown haired as they grow up." When she asks again just say "I already answered that question" or "We already discussed this, remember?" Repeat until she stops asking.
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2016-11-14 22:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the same approach with her with your son, see how she reacts! if not, just explain to her that you dont go all gaga over them, she probably isnt aware of how annoying it is, so tell her that you think all babies are cute. remember, she's bound to idolise her child, even if it is a bit OTT! Either grit your teeth and put up with it or calmly explain that its annoying the sh*t out of you!! lol xxxxx
2007-09-11 02:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the bigger person and tell her how you feel, your not a very good friend if you dont tell her how you feel
2007-09-11 00:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋