if you was a child of rape?

Question

who thinks that its wrong to keep a kid after being raped how could you tell your child and what if he wanted to find him what would you do

Answer 1

Although i was raped i did not become pregnant but i thought about this many times. i do not agree with an abortion for any reason and i thought the only time it would be understandable would be under these circumstances but as i thought about this more and more i would have kept it as it would be destorying an inisent life if i were to abort it. or to give it up for adoption.

Answer 2

I do not think it is right to abort a child JUST because the mother was raped I think if the woman does not believe in abortion then she should not be forced to have one but given all the support she needs to make her decision if she can not kill it but would not be able to look after it every day and love it then there is adoption ,many families would love a baby . But there are some very brave women who fight through the truma of rape and keep the baby . The maternal instint and love is very strong and can over come almost anything.
Children need to be told the truth as they want it and can handle it . If the mum answers the childs questions truthfully letting them know that nothing is their fault and they are loved & wanted by mum etc . If when they are old enough and armed with all the facts and information you know they decide to try and trace their father then mum has to be strong yet again and support them .




















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Answer 3

its not nessesarily wrong to keep a child made from being raped. That depends on your beliefs. it is a difficult situaton but i would keep the baby. I dont t hink i would tell my child that he was a product of a rape. If my child wanted to seek out his father I think iwould do it first and find the guy and tell him what the situation is. i wouldnt ever be alone with him. i wouldnt want my child alone with him either. there is a lot to think about in a situation like this. there really isn't a yes or no answer. Is the dad dnagerous? was he a stranger or was it date rape? You should really seek out professional help in this case. even schedule a meeting with your dad and the therapist. make sure you and your mom are safe at all times.. good luck

Answer 4

Tough question. I believe it is a mother's choice. I would hope she would give the child up to adoption. Of course having the child only further rewards the rapist with furthering his gene pool so I fully accept the use of abortion in this case, but encourage having the child and giving it to the many loving families in my area. Poor Madonna has to go to Africa to find a baby, now understand that is not condoning rape in any way, just choice for the victim.

Answer 5

I would keepit no matter what and when they are old enough to understand I would explain to them! they will be thankful you kept them!!!


Mommy I’m here.

Month One

Mommy
I am only 8 inches long
but I have all my organs.
I love the sound of your voice.
Every time I hear it
I wave my arms and legs.
The sound of your heart beat
is my favorite lullaby.



Month Two

Mommy
today I learned how to suck my thumb.
If you could see me
you could definitely tell that I am a baby.
I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though.
It is so nice and warm in here.





Month Three

You know what Mommy
I'm a boy!!
I hope that makes you happy.
I always want you to be happy.
I don't like it when you cry.
You sound so sad.
It makes me sad too
and I cry with you even though
you can't hear me.




Month Four

Mommy
my hair is starting to grow.
It is very short and fine
but I will have a lot of it.
I spend a lot of my time exercising.
I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes
and stretch my arms and legs.
I am becoming quite good at it too.




Month Five

You went to the doctor today.
Mommy, he lied to you.
He said that I'm not a baby.
I am a baby Mommy, your baby.
I think and feel.
Mommy, what's abortion?




Month Six


I can hear that doctor again.
I don't like him.
He seems cold and heartless.
Something is intruding my home.
The doctor called it a needle.
Mommy what is it? It burns!
Please make him stop!
I can't get away from it!
Mommy! HELP me!



Month Seven


Mommy
I am okay.
I am in Jesus's arms.
He is holding me.
He told me about abortion.
Why didn't you want me Mommy?



Every Abortion Is Just . . .



One more heart that was stopped.
Two more eyes that will never see.
Two more hands that will never touch.
Two more legs that will never run.
One more mouth that will never speak.

Answer 6

it isn't wrong to keep a baby if it was conserved by rape it takes a strong women 2 bring up the child i would tell the child when it was older how it came in the world and also tell the child it doesn't make me love he or she any less for it

Answer 7

I am a child(well grown up lol) that was a product of a rape. I was raised by my grandparents and never knew that my sister Lisa was my mom until I was about 12. Lisa and I have always had a good relationship. My mom has passed away now and since then we have talked more about why she gave me up. At the time she was 18 and didnt feel she could raise me given the circumstances. She wishes now that she had made a different choice and she had already changed her mind by the time I was just a few months old but she wasnt going to do that to our mom and dad(take me back) so I grew up as her sister. Now that I am grown (and our mom has passed so cant be hurt by our decision) I consider my brothers as my brothers but I still call Lisa by her name. I cant feel as though she is my mom. But so it is less confusing to my kids (rather than try to explain when older) they call her Grandma. I felt it was in their best intrests to grow up calling her that rather than find out later on that she is there gran. So no I dont think it is wrong to keep the child and later on in life you may regret having given it away but then it is too late.

Answer 8

Having been the victim of a rape, I think that anyone who is strong enough to carry the child of such a horrible crime is incredibly strong.

To answer your question it isn't wrong to want to keep the child, after all it is 1/2 of your genes. I wouldn't tell the child till it was old enough to understand then I would explain the situation.

Answer 9

Yes- I think it is wrong. Best not to tell them- some truths are better left untold.
Sometimes silence truly is golden.

Their life is hardly going to be significantly better is it if they know one of their parents was an unwilling victim and the other was a sexual predator?

Furthermore- all these other views expressed are really missing the point- why should the victim be continually victimised by the consequences of an action for they never consented to?

The answer is they should not- and if they choose to abort- then they have very right to and I fully support them- even if it were my 13 yr old daughter

Answer 10

It is not wrong to keep a child after being raped. What is sad is the child will be a constant reminder of the violation that took place and although it is not the child's thought, deep down there will always be that nigling feeling of resent.

Answer 11

After I was raped I went into complete denial, and it wasn't until after 6 months that a work colleague took me to the docs,and I found out I was pregnant. Bearing in mind this happened in the sixties and there was no counselling available.I had my son and he is now in his 40's, well rounded and well adjusted. He has shown no desire to find out which of the men was his 'father'. I can't say if it is right or wrong, telling him was really difficult though.I just love him, very much. As for it reminding me of what happened to me, yes it does, but having a beautiful son outweighs that.